Evidence shows that we think we're superior to others in every domain: We believe we're smarter, more attractive, more likable, and more skilled at a wide range of tasks, from math to leadership. For a long time, I hoped these narcissistic tendencies wouldn't extend to the domain of giving and helping. I was wrong.
I now choose to dance in first place in my own life. This has taken courage, self-love, determination and a pure-hearted willingness to go through big, big growing pains. But I am worth it. A happy, joy-calling life is worth it. I know this now. Even though for so many, many years in my life I did not.
We often think that when someone is ill or mourning or suffering in some way that whatever the person is going through must be so hard that we can't possibly help. Everyone is different. Be yourself. Do what comes naturally to you and is meaningful for your friend. If you have an idea, wild or simple, but aren't sure if it will help, ask!