We can't please everyone and we shouldn't even try. We don't have to attend every birthday party, baby shower, work event and argument we're invited to. Write down eight ways to say no, and keep the list handy. Saying no helps maintain focus and do what you really feel called to.
Ever notice when someone encounters an unhappy circumstance, they deem themselves being punished? Yet, when an incredible chain of remedial events take place, and they are rescued or delivered from a dilemma or catastrophe, they merely "lucked out?"
Psychology seems to be one of the means people come to seek answers for questions like spirituality and inner peace. There is an innate desire for most of us to have a sense of internal connection to peace that some may call heaven.
While you may not like or agree with how you were raised, or may be angry that you aren't accepted for who you are by your parents, remember that they are also people with feelings and their own history.