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Holly Sidell

The Only Piece of Dating Advice You Need

Holly Sidell | Posted 05.29.2014 | Women
Holly Sidell

Does all the dating advice you're hearing and trying to follow not feel authentic to you? Are you sick of beating yourself up for being something you're not?

What It Really Means When a Guy Says He's 'Scared'

Holly Sidell | Posted 05.13.2014 | Women
Holly Sidell

When a guy runs or even shuts down in the relationship because he says he's scared (if he truly is scared), he is showing you how he responds to discomfort. When he was feeling uneasy and uncomfortable, he bailed.

Letters From Loves Past

Holly Sidell | Posted 03.26.2014 | Women
Holly Sidell

I just moved into a new place, and amongst my boxes and boxes from storage, I came across a light blue satin bag, kept perfectly sealed at the top with a little white ribbon. I didn't remember this bag. So, I opened it.

What Monster of Protection Have You Created? (Guess What? It's Keeping You From What You Want)

Holly Sidell | Posted 11.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

We all have the power to change our lives and begin to draw in what we long for; it starts by going inward -- with compassion -- to see what monsters of protection we have created.

5 Rules for Proper Yoga Class Etiquette

Holly Sidell | Posted 10.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

When it's getting close to the end of class and it is time to stretch, please do not decide that in lieu of stretching you'd like to do arm balances that cause you to flop all over and fall on your neighbors who are in pigeon pose.

My Interview With a Professional Pick Up Artist (and Why Some Men Can't Make It Past the 'Chase')

Holly Sidell | Posted 09.18.2013 | Los Angeles
Holly Sidell

What if a man does want to pursue something and try to build a relationship? What if he thinks he's not supposed to want more, even though he does? Or, what if, point blank, he just has no clue what to do next?

When You Get Back in the Saddle Again, Expect to Fall

Holly Sidell | Posted 06.22.2013 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

I decided to dip my toe back into the water... and belly-flopped instead. I had set myself up to fail because I had set unreasonable expectations in place.

Dating Advice: Want to Know What Kind of a Man he is? Look at His Friends

Holly Sidell | Posted 04.17.2013 | Women
Holly Sidell

I admit that I am 100% guilty of not taking this advice in the past. I met one ex-boyfriend after his married best friend hit on me. Then, there was the guy whose friends all made a group pact that they would never get married.

You Are Not Helpless: How to Bring Light to the World

Holly Sidell | Posted 02.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

How do you light up the world? How do you bring light to another person's life? Each of us has the power to make the world a little bit brighter. Each of us can choose to shine our own light, transforming the darkness one flicker at a time.

Red Flags: Dating and Presidents

Holly Sidell | Posted 12.25.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

I would never get into a relationship with a man who was constantly contradicting himself and constantly changing his views on things based on appeasing other people... and I would never vote for a President like that, either.

Be Wary! Workouts Are Not One Size Fits All

Holly Sidell | Posted 12.11.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

An exercise training program must continually build, constantly offering the body and muscles new challenges so as not to plateau, and to continue to rev up the metabolism and build stamina. But how that is done is truly relative and specific to each client.

Bored? Uninspired? 6 Quick Fixes

Holly Sidell | Posted 11.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

Changing our state really isn't that hard. It's just that we've been programmed to reach for immediate gratification, for some sort of "medicine" to cover our discomfort, to reach for something external to fix us quickly, to lift us up. But all it takes is a different choice.

Do You Know What You Want To Be When You Grow Up? I Don't!

Holly Sidell | Posted 10.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

Maybe you feel like you are floundering from one thing to another, maybe you feel the pressure of society or your parents or your spouse to just pick a path already and stay on it, even if you hate it.

Desperation: Is it Keeping You From What (or Who) You Want?

Holly Sidell | Posted 09.05.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

When we want anything badly -- a job, a relationship, money, a stroke of creative genius, etc. -- it creates an air of desperation. And this energy of desperation acts like a rubber wall and a heavy coat of armor -- what you want can't get to you.

What Is Your Breakdown Trying to Tell You?

Holly Sidell | Posted 08.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Holly Sidell

I am aware now that I need to deal with my real feelings. I have to actually feel the grief, feel the fear. I have to process it all. Which sucks, honestly. It's painful. Who wants to feel pain? But, it's the only way through it.

Why Didn't He Call?

Holly Sidell | Posted 07.24.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

I know how awful that is; that sinking feeling in your stomach, the heat flashes or chills running through your body when you realize a few days, weeks or months have gone by and he hasn't called.

He Didn't Call When I Wanted Him To!

Holly Sidell | Posted 07.16.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

Many women get upset when a man doesn't act on her time line. But here's the thing -- he doesn't know about our time line unless we tell him about it

Deal Breakers: Are They the Reason You're Still Single?

Holly Sidell | Posted 06.10.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

Maybe your pickiness, your deal breakers, are really just walls you're putting up to keep you from getting hurt.

Why I Owe Courtney from 'The Bachelor' an Apology

Holly Sidell | Posted 05.13.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

We've all been in love. And we've all been TERRIFIED of having that love not returned or having that love taken away. We each have our own defenses we put up to try to keep us from that hurt.

Have You Stopped Dreaming?

Holly Sidell | Posted 05.07.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

We may not have the luxury of quitting our jobs. We may not have the luxury of going after our dreams full-time. But we have the luxury of remembering that our happiness is in our hands.

When My Past Love Met My Current Love

Holly Sidell | Posted 04.15.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

It is not until we can separate the person from the memory that we will cease being haunted.

Don't Let Facebook Timeline Be the Demise of Your Relationship

Holly Sidell | Posted 03.27.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

Until we can learn to unequivocally trust ourselves and our partners, I suggest staying away from the snooping that is being handed to us with the new Facebook layout.

Starting the New Year off with a ... THUMP?

Holly Sidell | Posted 03.11.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

There's all this hoopla about planting seeds and setting intentions but what happens once those seeds are planted and intentions set? What then?

Would You Admit That You Cheated?

Holly Sidell | Posted 02.18.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

"Have you ever cheated?" the man I'm in love with asked totally nonchalantly while spooning out a portion of veggie pan fried noodles. SH*T. I was faced with a split second game time decision.

Think Before You Fight With Your Partner

Holly Sidell | Posted 01.30.2012 | Women
Holly Sidell

He hung up. He hung up mean. I didn't know who that person on the line was. And I thought about things that I had said and ways I had reacted, and I didn't know who that person was, either.