"What if sleeping with some guy is squashing his motivation to go out and find the true love of his life because his immediate sexual needs are being met? Meanwhile, some other girl is doing the same with the guy you're supposed to be with."
Pictures are flashed, on profiles, when I'm out with friends, to show the sexy guy that's pursuing them. It's fun, initially. I laugh and participate in it too, while loathing my complicity in something I know we are all harmed by and baffled at our participation in a system that does not serve us.
Hooking up is supposed to be a fun, safe way of exploring your sexuality, no matter whom or what you're into at the moment. But as with any exploration, there is a set of basic rules that can keep you safe and off the radar of the town's gossip queen, with your reputation in intact.
Young men and women are beginning to learn that "yes means yes," but what is still missing from the education young people need to avoid rape is the necessity of taking agency for ourselves.
If you thought being middle aged meant the days of a stranger saddling up to you at the bar and delivering one of those awkward pick up lines were lon...
Dating in high school can turn your world upside down: One minute, you're nervously decoding every ounce of meaning from your crush's texts; the next,...
What explains these teenagers' inability to think about sexuality at the same level of cognitive sophistication they so capably bring to practically every other subject matter?
As a scientist who studies sex, and as a sex educator (I teach college-level human sexuality classes at Indiana University and have written the Kinsey...
If you say you're looking for a boyfriend on Facebook, you might expect a few comical replies. But would you ever expect to find a cover letter slippe...
Sometimes a spontaneous move in the right moment sparks something great; thus, every offer should not be rejected. So, instead of a rule, I've created a flow chart to help me decide if I will sleep with someone I meet at a party.
Hook-up culture creates a strange binary: on the one hand, students are having casual sex. On the other hand, students are having no sex at all. With the exception of an occasional long-term relationship, there is virtually nothing in-between.
The college experience often entails drinking, partying and intimate interactions. And what used to be seen as a mate-seeking ritual has shifted to ho...
I am beyond thrilled to acknowledge that girls today are being brought up in a generation that promotes empowerment and equality. Yet many young girls emulate women who are flexing their muscles on a stripper pole, and not in the boardroom.
In the avant-garde literature of the 1960s, female pubic hair was everywhere. Pubic hair marked the site we all wanted to see, to touch, to enter. It marked pleasures yet to come. Not today: Pubic hair has gone missing.
While I haven't met Snooki, I do know a real housewife of New Jersey, 43-year old Medford Lakes mother of two, Margo Pellegrino. She's currently paddling an outrigger canoe down the Pacific Coast from Seattle to San Diego.
There's nothing new about hooking up. As a sexual-revolutionary, I practically lived on the Relationship Roller Coaster. Little did I know that biology was arranging every ride.
The hookup -- that meeting and mating ritual that started among high school and college students -- is becoming a trend among young people who have en...
If you can put aside the inherent creepiness of hearing a man well past his teenage years talking about teenagers having sex, check out this Philip We...