Like everything in our lives like our careers, our physical fitness, or our spiritual well being -- in order to remain healthy we need to pay attention to it. Western culture by nature has become quite lazy and unfortunately this laziness has permeated our marriages.
When does one officially know midlife is a thing of the past? Some claim it is when your first child turns 40 or the first time you are called "Nana" or "Grammy." For others, it is when not one word can be read without glasses, or when they can't find the damn glasses. This is when I knew.
It's kind of like sex. The new Meryl Streep-Tommy Lee Jones movie, Hope Springs, can be a little messy and uneven. You need to take your time with it, be patient and open. But it is ultimately satisfying.
I've talked with thousands of people about their sex lives. I've heard over and over about how much sex people are not having, how they just don't feel like it, how they are too tired to think about it. I'm always happy to be able to tell them there are simple solutions available.
The fact that Meryl Streep's new movie "Hope Springs" opened and Helen Gurley Brown died in the same week seems to me a passing of a very important baton. The baton our Post50 generation needs to get us moving toward an honest and candid discussion about sex.
Hope Springs, about a Nebraskan housewife whose needs aren't being met by her husband, is an impressively frank examination of a marriage gone stale. As a public service, I attempted to sort out the various breakthroughs I had while watching.
If you can believe that the woman who played both the dynamic domineering Margaret Thatcher and the delicious Julia Child is a hopeless, despondent and put-upon matron - well, that's the theme of "Hope Springs."
“Everybody is contending with the same thing at a certain point in life –- you see certain doors are closed. You’re facing a shorter journey and [wanting to know] how to make it richer, how to make it mean something.”
They take a very specific couple and make them universal. It could be a primer on what couple's therapy is about, how it works and how the results won't always be life-changing breakthroughs -- at least not right away.