Many times, the person is aware, and even proud, he or she has said something humorous. Then we laugh with the person -- not at them. These moments can be among the most precious we will ever have with our loved ones.
The surgery and downtime also made me think about and appreciate everything that I have. I have to be thankful for a lot in life, and sadly sometimes it is the most adverse situations that make you realize that -- but better late than never, I guess.