When we try to be perfect, we become disconnected to people, and most importantly ourselves. I would love to see more celebrities and people, get more real. Be who you are. Live simply. Stop the obsessive planning and precautions.
We all get caught in wants and fears, we all act unconsciously, we all get diseased and deteriorate. If we can learn to relax about imperfection, we no longer lose our life moments in the pursuit of being different and in the fear of what is wrong.
I have exciting news for you which hopefully will keep you connected with this friend of yours forever. If you drink coffee, or if you might be a casual smoker of pot, please have some now so you can focus on my somewhat long-winded answer to your wonderful question.
Although many individuals and organizations across the spectrum step forward in speaking out about their fight to improve self-acceptance, tons of mixed signals from those same outlets often scream insecurity.