We are over the moon thrilled that our son and his beautiful girlfriend announced their engagement. If you are a parent and have had this experience, you must know how special it is. While we savor this exquisite moment in our lives, I have already started to ponder my new role as mother-in-law.
There is another arena where 'armchair quarterbacks' also exist -- except this time, those who sit in the metaphorical armchairs have the ability and occasionally, the actual desire to wreak havoc, cause pain and outright destroy relationships.
As you get to know each other, you'll find common ground, and it won't feel like you're on opposite sides. It will never be "perfect"--no relationship is. But if you work at the relationship, you just might learn from each other.
You do not have to love hanging out with your future mother in law, and it's also okay to think your future sister in law is a piece of trash. But you should make the decision YOURSELF as to whether you love your fiancé enough to tolerate the baggage.
I firmly believe that when we stop pushing back against people who come at us with unwanted advice and criticism, their behavior simply loses its impact. Often, the offensive behavior -- no longer evoking a reaction -- begins to lessen.
The minister at a beautiful outdoor wedding I attended last month wore a shawl with symbols of numerous faiths. The person sitting next to me whispered in my ear, "That woman has found a growing industry."
You think the magical moments of your life will happen on big days, but they're usually more ordinary. The magic of connection, gratitude and love can show up at work, in nature, at dinner, even at the movies.
When I first met my mother-in-law, it was at a birthday party she was throwing for her oldest daughter, then turning thirty, who later became my wife. I remember thinking that my future wife's mother was very smart, very determined, and very pretty.
There are times we feel smothered by another person's food and health philosophy, or we may even be guilty of this ourselves. Marriage is about coming together with patience and love, but it should never mean feeling belittled for your health and positive body image efforts.
You are the only person with the power to control yourself. Being you is more than just your favorite color or your favorite food, it's about becoming the person you are capable of being. Creating the real you can be a life-long journey.