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Inner Bonding

Parents -- What About You?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.15.2014 | Parents
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

She was beginning to see that the problem was not so much not being cared about by her family, but not caring about herself. She could begin to see that how her family treated her was a mirror for how she was treating herself.

4 Ways to Practice the Presence of Love

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Our programmed mind -- our ego wounded self -- will always want to come in with false beliefs and need to control. Practicing the presence of love is to gently, and with great compassion, not allow our wounded self to be in charge of our thoughts.

Do You Experience God?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Opening to love does not mean that we will be vulnerable to being hurt, manipulated or taken advantage of. In fact, the opposite can happen: In experiencing God, we receive the wisdom and strength to know what is good or bad for us, what is right or wrong for us.

What Is Loving to You, Is Loving to Others

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Whatever we do that is truly loving to ourselves -- that is in the highest good of our soul's journey on the planet -- is also loving to others. It is never in our highest good to be mean to others, or to disregard other's feelings and needs. But it is in our highest good follow our higher guidance and do what really brings us joy and fulfillment.

How Do I 'Let Go and Let God'?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"How do I stop letting my ego run my life?" "How do I stop trying to control everything and let go? "How do I stop judging myself and ruminating about...

'Triggers' and The Moment of Choice

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 07.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

While you might not be aware of it, we all have at least a second to choose how we want to respond to a trigger -- and most times more than a second. If you choose to take the breath and tune in, you have a chance of responding from your loving adult self rather reacting from your ego wounded self. You have the chance to move into compassion for yourself.

The Quickest Way Out of the Dumps

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Life here is a great gift. In the spiritual realm, we do not come up against darkness -- the darkness that challenges us to discover our own light. Only by coming up against our own and other's wounds can we discover how to heal them.

Welcoming Our Ego-Wounded Parts

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"I just want to get rid of the part of me that gets angry so easily." "I hate the part of me that thinks about food all the time." "I just want to k...

If You Really Loved Me, You Would...

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We control to get love and avoid pain, yet by controlling rather than loving ourselves and others, we create the very pain we are trying to avoid. The negative aspects of your relationship and your expectations are fertile areas for exploration within yourself and with your partner.

Are You Stuck in the 'Resistance Syndrome'?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.31.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Do you find yourself stuck in your life, resisting doing what you really need to do? There is a good reason for this. Did you learn when you were gro...

What Really Creates Emotional Intimacy

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The more we practice staying connected with our spiritual guidance and our own feelings, the more we create inner and relationship safety.

Are You Addicted to Caretaking?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I had been caretaking for so long that it was habitual and addictive. However, once I realized that it was controlling rather than loving, I became determined to heal this addiction. I'm happy to say that loving myself and sharing my love with others is what I do most of the time now, and it brings me great joy!

Are You an Emotional Victim?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

None of us like to think of ourselves as victims. The term "victim" brings to mind a pathetic image of a person who is powerless. Therefore, it comes ...

Do You Demand or Do You Request?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When a person goes into resistance, they lose their caring. Sometimes the resistance is in response to your attempts to control, but sometimes it has nothing to do with you. Many people bring their resistance from childhood into the relationship and feel controlled by any request.

Attracting the Love of Your Life

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 07.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you are ready to attract the love of your life, then first become all you want the love of your life to be. Then you will be amazed at what happens!

The Thing About Horses

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Next time you are around horses, breathe deeply and get quiet inside. Tune in to them from your heart and you will feel the depth of these magnificent animals. If you open your heart and soul, you will understand why some of us have a thing about horses.

Finding Your Tribe

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

It is important for all of us to find our tribe -- those people we resonate with -- especially if you don't have that with your family of origin. There is a deep sense of safety in being with people with whom you can connect.

Do You See Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Elaina consulted with me because she felt filled with shame. A beautiful woman with a highly successful career, two children and a loving husband, Ela...

5 Ways to Manifest Your Dream Life

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I've had many amazing things happen in my life that solidified my belief in the law of attraction. I've also come to understand exactly what we need t...

3 Ways to Not Get Drained by Needy People

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you often leave a conversation feeling drained, then you need to learn to be aware of what needy, draining people do that suck the life right out of you -- and what you can do to not get drained.

7 Ways to Care Rather Than Care-Take

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When we are care-giving rather than care-taking, we do these things willingly because it is loving to ourselves and to the other to do so, and we do not feel the resentment that we often feel when we give ourselves up to care-take.

5 Ways We Push Away Relationships (And What To Do About It)

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Is your primary intent in being in a relationship to get love, or is it to share your love with your beloved? If it's to get love -- due to your own self-abandonment -- then your challenge in attracting your beloved is to learn to love yourself and share your love.

'I've Got Your Back'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

One of the wonderful things we have to offer each other in our relationships is to have each other's back. Being alone with difficult challenges is very hard. But all too often, this is not how couples relate to each other.

What Love Really Means (And How To Show It)

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Learning to love yourself is foundational for being able to love others. The more you learn to be kind and gentle with yourself, rather than judgmental and rejecting, the more loving you will be with others.

Joy! Causeless Joy!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Today was a great day, because I fully allowed love and beauty to open my heart to causeless joy. That joy continues as I share that now with you.