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Inner Critic

How Shame Makes Us Allergic to Receiving

John Amodeo, PhD | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
John Amodeo, PhD

Many of us grow up with deflating messages that something's wrong with us, we're not good enough, and we don't measure up. When the water we swim in is saturated with shame, we may not notice casual acts of caring or spontaneous expressions of love.

Stop Hating Yourself for Hating Vacation

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Something amazing happened on this holiday. It seems that all the years of spiritual practice kind of kicked in. When I stopped judging myself for the experience I was having, stopped hating myself for hating vacation, I discovered two wonderful things: humor and compassion.

Best New Year Ever! Say 'Goodbye' to Your Inner Critic

Eckhart Teachings | Posted 03.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Eckhart Teachings

New Year's Day is a time of reflection, as resolutions for the New Year abound. A new year means new beginnings... a fresh start. We joyfully announce...

How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Overcoming our critical inner voice can be a vital step in becoming more emotionally resilient. We can learn skills to become hardier, and we can face challenges with fewer internal setbacks.

How To Silence Your Inner Critic

Erin Cox | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Erin Cox

Self-doubt lives in nearly all human beings, but we need to keep it in check and have some strategies in place to move forward despite those thoughts and feelings.

Silencing the Critic

Sue Shanahan | Posted 11.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Sue Shanahan

Being considerate to others is encouraged. But what about being kind to ourselves? Somewhere along the way most of us learned self-compassion is self-indulgence.

On The Power Of Choosing Your Thoughts

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we learn mindfulness, we gain the power of familiarizing ourselves with our thoughts and our patterns. We can get to know our critical inner voices, and we can start to recognize when these cruel thoughts start to surface.

9 Extraordinary Ways To Silence Your Inner Critic

Posted 04.08.2013 | Healthy Living

By Jancee Dunn A little self-criticism is a good thing: It can be a reality check that spurs you to be a better person. But there is a vast differ...

The 7-Step Guide to Misery

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Why would someone make the choice to be miserable? Because it is often a way of getting attention and of attempting to get someone else to be responsible for them. If this is what you want, here is a roadmap to make sure you accomplish your goal!

10 Ways to Know If Your Career Dreams Are Realistic

Tara Sophia Mohr | Posted 05.04.2013 | Women
Tara Sophia Mohr

Most women and girls are profoundly held back by their inner critics -- but they often don't know it and they certainly haven't been given the tools to do anything about it.

4 Steps To Conquer Your Inner Critic

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we fail to identify and separate from this inner critic, we allow it to impact our behavior and shape the direction of our lives. So how can we challenge this inner voice?

Welcoming Love

Maggie Lyon | Posted 04.15.2013 | Healthy Living
Maggie Lyon

The love I'm talking about here is pure and contingency-free. I like to imagine this love as an ever-flowing fountain, bursting with warmth, kindness, and compassion from each one of our hearts.

Self-Parenting 101: Learning to Take Your Own Side

Nancy Colier | Posted 02.17.2013 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

In life, the person you spend the most time with is yourself. You are always in your own company. Why not keep company with someone who loves you as opposed to someone who does not particularly like you, or worse?

Why Women Get 'Catty'

Lisa Firestone | Posted 12.22.2012 | Women
Lisa Firestone

Think of the times we say things we regret about other women. Who are we saying these things to? In what context do these feelings arise? And most importantly, what are the underlying feelings driving the negative comment?

WATCH: How Do I Know If I'm Being Self-Critical or Just Realistic?

Tara Sophia Mohr | Posted 10.30.2012 | Women
Tara Sophia Mohr

There is a simple and fast way to tell whether you are hearing from the voice of your inner critic and the voice of realistic thinking. Here's how!

How To 'Chill' With Your Inner Critic

Chela Davison | Posted 08.15.2012 | Healthy Living
Chela Davison

Most people have never been treated as poorly by another human being as they have by the voices in their own heads. So what are we to do with this voice? What's this voice for?

Have Compassion For Your Inner Critic: The Reasons Why We Beat Our Selves Up

Kristin Neff | Posted 08.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Kristin Neff

Don't beat yourself up for beating yourself up in the vain hope that somehow it will help you stop beating yourself up. Instead, take a step back and give your inner critic some slack. In its ineffective, counterproductive way, your inner critic is actually trying to keep you safe.

Are You Afraid of Getting Negative Feedback?

Tara Sophia Mohr | Posted 06.03.2012 | Women
Tara Sophia Mohr

I want to offer you a concept shift, a whole new way of thinking about feedback that has allowed feedback to serve me, instead of scare me.

Love Yourself First

Carolyn Anderson | Posted 04.14.2012 | Healthy Living
Carolyn Anderson

Lucille Ball said it best when she said, "Love yourself first and everything falls into line."

How To SIlence Your Inner Critic

Tara Sophia Mohr | Posted 03.21.2012 | Women
Tara Sophia Mohr

You can recognize your critic by how it speaks to you. Good, realistic, sound thinking examines the situation with a light heart and a focus on solutions. Feel the difference!

8 Ways to Keep Your Sanity During the Holidays

Therese Borchard | Posted 02.03.2012 | Healthy Living
Therese Borchard

Yes, the holidays do bring a magic and excitement to the month of December, but the stress, loneliness and blues pre-packaged with the festivities can be enough to drag one-fourth of us across the tenuous line from sanity to insanity.

Letting Go of Comparisons. Enough Already!

Agapi Stassinopoulos | Posted 01.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Agapi Stassinopoulos

I have found that one of the most self-binding and defeating habits that many of us have is the tendency to compare ourselves to others: comparing our physical appearance, material possessions, personal life, romantic relationships and career.

WATCH: How To Make Friends With Your Inner Critic

Sasha Cagen | Posted 09.14.2011 | Healthy Living
Sasha Cagen

When you find yourself beating yourself up, how can you stop? Should you ignore your inner critic? Argue with it? Or is it best to become friends with it and love your inner critic?

The Lessons From Yoga Keep Coming

Beth Weinstock | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Beth Weinstock

Yoga helps us uncover how close or far we are from being with ourselves, and helps us to close the gap.

Plagued by an Inner Critic

Colleen Perry | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Colleen Perry

The only thing we need to change about ourselves is to stop holding ourselves to unreasonable standards and begin to risk ourselves by being honest with those we love.