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International Adoption

Finding My Identity As An Adopted Child

Amanda King | Posted 12.04.2014 | Teen
Amanda King

The only difference between me and a non-adopted child is that I just happen to have two more parents. Questions about my adoption don't bother me because I am not ashamed. Rather, I think of my adoption of something that makes me unique.

Fundraising for Adoption: Who Benefits?

Mirah Riben | Posted 11.29.2014 | Impact
Mirah Riben

Clearly, the fundraising helps those who receive the money to get what they want. But it also causes hurt to adoptees -- those whose adoption is supposed to put first -- and their families of origin.

I Used To Feel Ashamed About Telling My Friends I Was Adopted

Mei Webb | Posted 11.26.2014 | Teen
Mei Webb

For the last three years, I have completely forgotten about Gotcha Day -- I saw no need to bring it up, or to make anything out of it. I feel as if, everyday, my parents recognize Gotcha Day; so why celebrate it on just one particular day of the year?

Discovering Pieces of Who She Is -- In a Place She Has No Memory of Being

Melissa Ludtke | Posted 11.14.2014 | Parents
Melissa Ludtke

My daughter Maya was three days old, a healthy newborn, when police officers in China's rural Xiaxi Town found her. Or so her adoption papers say.

11 Things Never To Say To An Adoptive Parent

Maria Colaco | Posted 11.13.2014 | Parents
Maria Colaco

I think people -- even today -- don't think that adoptive parents go through the same things that you do when you have a biological child.

How I Learned To Finally Embrace My Adoptee Identity

Alexandra Touloukian | Posted 11.10.2014 | Teen
Alexandra Touloukian

The experience of visiting my orphanage struck something within me, and I could no longer deny the reality of the two places in China that I had a connection to. For the first time in my life, I saw myself as I truly was: a Chinese adoptee.

What We Forget To Talk About When We Celebrate Adoption

Sophie Johnson | Posted 11.11.2014 | Teen
Sophie Johnson

Lots of families celebrate the day they met their adopted child and became a family. But while I appreciate the love and everything else my parents give me, Gotcha Day can be a mixed bag -- one that leaves kids like me sad and confused.

8 Things Adoptive Parents Should Never, Ever Do

Ann Brenoff | Posted 11.03.2014 | Parents
Ann Brenoff

I am acutely aware that for me to gain my family, two women across the world suffered a massive loss. I can't imagine their pain. I don't know what I would say to them. But I won't ignore that they exist.

A Salute to Fierce Women Who Protect Children

John M. Simmons | Posted 12.21.2014 | Impact
John M. Simmons

While I won't downplay the part that men play in the fight for children and the rights of them and all of their mothers, I firmly believe that we are led by fierce women and that the world will be a better place for children and families because of the reasonable thought leaders on both sides of the adoption fence.

Is Adoption Good? Rick Warren Meets Kim Kardashian

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 11.24.2014 | Impact
Frank Ligtvoet

We started to question adoption. Is adoption, we thought, not often a definitive solution for temporary problems? If these problems were more seriously addressed by social services and with less time pressure, would these adoptions have been necessary?

Hearts Wide Open, Unaware of All We Didn't Know

Allison Barberi | Posted 11.10.2014 | Parents
Allison Barberi

This list is not to discourage you from adopting. Rather it's here to help you become aware of what your adopted children may experience. Use it to help you prepare for their homecoming, and you and your children will be able to have an easier adjustment to your new family.

Adoption, Food and Acceptance

Allison Barberi | Posted 10.18.2014 | Parents
Allison Barberi

One of our children collected everyone's apple cores and saved them next to her seat. We tried to assure her that we had more food, but nothing could persuade her to let us throw the apple cores away. We felt it was best to just let her have them, if it made her feel safer.

I, Firat Kaya: My Origins Lie Elsewhere

Alexander Goerlach | Posted 09.12.2014 | Religion
Alexander Goerlach

Identity formation always includes a process of othering, of demarcating oneself from those who are different. But what if one's identity has two sides?

Paper Chains

Craig Juntunen | Posted 08.03.2014 | Impact
Craig Juntunen

On Tuesday the Both Ends Burning campaign released its investigative report, titled Paper Chains, documenting the U.S. Department of State's misconduc...

My Daughters' Mothers

Hanni Beyer Lee | Posted 07.23.2014 | Fifty
Hanni Beyer Lee

My three daughters were all adopted from China at older ages. Despite the immense losses each of them have carried, they have loved me and accepted my affection and care without question. It doesn't mean they have not hurt inside or pushed back at me. But they have called me Mama from the get-go and always reached out when they needed me.

A Very Simple Explanation of Reactive Attachment Disorder

John M. Simmons | Posted 06.22.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

Emily was 15 when she left her Russian orphanage to join our family and her biological younger sisters.The Russian social workers informed us that she had behavioral problems and probably even disorders. They told us that she most likely had Reactive Attachment Disorder and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. They said that we shouldn't take her into our home.

A Mistake Adoptive Parents Never Need to Make Again

John M. Simmons | Posted 06.16.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

When it comes to difficult circumstances, I always try to focus on what is best for my children rather than my own feelings. A week ago I came to the understanding that I have been falling short without realizing it for nine years, now. I say "not realizing it," but maybe I just didn't want to know.

Democratic Republic of Congo, Christianity and International Adoption

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 06.14.2014 | Politics
Frank Ligtvoet

The mainstream Evangelicals do not take the criticism of Joyce and other researchers like E.J. Graf and David Smolin seriously and they keep promoting international adoption as the solution to the orphan crisis.

Why the Decline in International Adoptions?

John M. Simmons | Posted 06.08.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

I am not "for" international adoption. I am not against it. I am "for" children having loving parents and being in homes where they have a support network.

Wrongfully Detained

Craig Juntunen | Posted 06.04.2014 | Impact
Craig Juntunen

Today, over 100 orphans who have already been legally adopted by American families from the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC) are still stuck in orphanages waiting for their American families to bring them home.

Fish Heads and Folktales by Peter Moran

Melissa Webster | Posted 05.27.2014 | Books
Melissa Webster

A beautiful story about the family who chooses us and the ones we choose, Fish Heads and Folktales is a novel that explores the life of Peter and his cross-cultural experience as a Korean-born baby adopted by an American family to live in the U.S.

A Calculation: The 'Orphan Crisis' in Ethiopia

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 05.07.2014 | Impact
Frank Ligtvoet

Ethiopia is but one example of the many countries where the 'orphan crisis' plays out. There are, says the CHIFF website, 200,000,000 orphans. As in Ethiopia in all those other countries CHIFF will not make any difference in that crisis.

Captain America Does It Again! Troubling International Adoption Legislation (CHIFF)

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 05.02.2014 | Politics
Frank Ligtvoet

"There is one issue on which all Americans agree, every child needs a family." This is the slogan used by the supporters of the proposed legislation C...

Hyphen(-)less Adoption

John M. Simmons | Posted 04.27.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

What I immediately noticed in the reunification story of Jessica Long is that there were no hyphens. I watched her parents, here in the states, talk about her family in Russia. They didn't talk about her meeting her birth-mother. I never heard them say birth-father.

I Believe in Paradoxes

John M. Simmons | Posted 04.22.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

Like any parents, we taught our children that they didn't hate their siblings; they loved them. And love didn't allow aggressive behavior. Perhaps we would have been wiser to teach them to control their anger rather than attempting to prove that paradoxes couldn't exist.