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Intimacy

In Defense of 'Spreadsheet Guy'

Randall Frederick | Posted 07.25.2014 | Weddings
Randall Frederick

For the last few days, a copy of Spreadsheet Guy's chronicle of sexual rebuff has been circulating. What I see in this image is not a man who feels his wife "owes" him sexual favors, but a man making a desperate cry for help.

Not Enough Time for Intimacy?

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 07.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Our health, career, financial well-being, relationships with family and friends, creative expression, and even spiritual life, all radiate out from the well being of that flourishing intimate partnership.

LA Couple Writes the New Definitive Guide to Sex, Relationship and Hormones

Xaque Gruber | Posted 07.23.2014 | Books
Xaque Gruber

He's a former fighter pilot and scholar on sex/relationships, raised in a strict Catholic household. She's a personal, career and relationship counselor, screenwriter and artist. Together husband and wife, Frank Wiegers and Judith Claire, have founded a website to help singles and couples with sex, love and romance.

Satisfaction Highlights Midlife Relationship Strains

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 07.15.2014 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

Time will tell as to whether Satisfaction will remain true to its premise of showing us how the lines of individual and joint development evolve over time. For the moment, it's a relief to have a break from the usual midlife silliness and instead to explore this important period of life's deeper themes.

Intimacy Matters!

Hans Hickler | Posted 07.15.2014 | New York
Hans Hickler

I value expediency. The idea of finding everything I want in one store and getting in and out quickly ... love that. But there are times when I am not that shopper. When a purchase really matters to me, then I want more.

How We Use Social Networking, Part 4: Are You Socially Anxious or Avoidant?

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

Psychologists have long been interested in the concept of attachment, which has its origins in childhood experiences, primarily with those who raise u...

Finding Elusive Intimacy (Into Me You See)

Mary Pritchard | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

I started cultivating intimacy with myself. Starting journaling about what I wanted, who I was, what I loved about myself, my body. And you know what happened? This elusive intimacy found me.

Sexual Rejection From Your Partner Damages Your Self-Esteem

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

When your partner consistently avoids sex and intimacy, or on the rare occasion when they are willing, are obviously doing so reluctantly -- the accumulations of repeated rejections are likely to have a big impact on your self-esteem.

The Power of Authenticity to Create Intimacy

John Amodeo, PhD | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
John Amodeo, PhD

Being authentic in relationships is easier said than done. It requires that we tend closely to our actual felt experience. Rather than defend and protect ourselves, it means finding the courage to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and then show that to a person we want to be close to.

What Really Creates Emotional Intimacy

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The more we practice staying connected with our spiritual guidance and our own feelings, the more we create inner and relationship safety.

The Secret Thing Husbands Don't Always Ask for But Need From Their Wives

Dr. Shannon Kolakowski | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Shannon Kolakowski

Emotional support is the idea that your spouse cares what happens to you in your day. Emotional support is knowing that you have someone one on your side, cheering you on through the difficult moments. It's celebrating with you in your triumphs. It's being there with you in the quiet moments, sharing in life together.

The Perfect 'Imperfect' Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

I don't believe in soul mates. That doesn't mean I don't believe in true love or the idea that two people can find each other and be truly happy together for the rest of their lives. What I reject, rather, is the belief that there is only one person in the world for us.

The Fear Factor

Robin Korth | Posted 06.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Robin Korth

I no longer fear being alone. By rising up in quiet love for myself, I have upset the "balance of power" in many of my relationships. With gentle firmness, I now refuse to participate in interactions that hurt me in any fashion.

Mother Love: Molding Our Capacity For Intimacy

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 06.10.2014 | Parents
Dr. Tian Dayton

The Hindus say that "the mother's lap is the child's first classroom." Neuroscience helps us to understand just what is being taught and learned on this lap of love and it's importance not only to the child, but to society and mankind.

What Gets in the Way of Having an Orgasm?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 06.05.2014 | Women
Lisa Firestone

Although it can be hard to connect some of the dots at first, when we really explore the roots of our sexuality, we find that negative attitudes about sex and our own sexuality often stem from our early experiences in childhood, along with our previous experiences with sexuality.

Why I Came Out Of The 'Good-Girl' Closet At 50

Erica Jagger | Posted 06.04.2014 | Fifty
Erica Jagger

There's an extra layer of shame to being told you're an old slut. A young woman's "sluttiness" can be excused in part because she hasn't lived long enough to buy into social mores, and she's too hormonal to delay gratification. But an older woman who admits that she likes erotic pleasure without all the packaging? That's not just slutty, apparently, it's freakish.

How To Keep Your Dog From Interfering With Your Sex Life

HuffPost Live | Posted 06.03.2014 | HuffPost Live 321

Sometimes there's nothing better than curling up in bed and snuggling with a canine companion. But what do you do when your dog wants to be so close t...

One Surprising Reason We Sabotage Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can learn what drives contemporary behavior by shining a spotlight on our past. In doing so, we're not dwelling on what happened to us or letting it rule our lives. Rather, we are taking control of our present.

5 Lessons From the Normal Heart of Matt Bomer

Zain | Posted 07.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Zain

I was prepared for a big cry-fest when I watched the HBO film, The Normal Heart, but I didn't shed tears. Instead, I felt a deep profound feeling in my gut that challenged my own attitudes towards what I allow to hold me back. I asked Matt Bomer what lessons he learned from helping tell this story.

8 Questions Every Couple Should Answer Before They Get Married

Doug and Leslie Gustafson | Posted 05.21.2014 | Weddings
Doug and Leslie Gustafson

Success in marriage needs to ride on more than the high-spirited emotions of dating that drive two lovers together. Take turns asking these tough questions.

Does Intimacy Have to Involve Sex?

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 07.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

So, how am I learning to build authentic intimacy in my relationship with my wife? It all begins with empathy and learning to really listen to what my partner is saying.

When It's Time to Say Goodbye

Robin Korth | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Robin Korth

One morning I really looked in the mirror and understood that the relationship I was trying to save was quietly killing me. The reflected bounce-back of the "me" in this broken "we" was a sad, lost lady with only my name riding her face.

4 Lessons Homeless Veterans Have Taught Me

Nick Holt, MSW, ASW | Posted 07.07.2014 | Impact
Nick Holt, MSW, ASW

In working with veterans for the past five years, I have learned a lot about their lives, thoughts, feelings, actions, intentions and outcomes. These learnings have reshaped the way I look at homeless veterans, myself and my community.

4 Ways To Hold A Sexless Marriage Together And Perhaps Even Thrive

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 07.07.2014 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

You've seen the ads for Cialis and Viagra showing that all it takes to bring the sex back into the relationships of the fifty-plus is a little pill. However, these medications aren't for everyone, nor do they necessarily work. Some couples, as they age, may at some point have to come to grips with the fact that the sex in their relationship will never be what it was in the past.

Your Partner's Low T Rx: What Women and Children Should Know and Do

John La Puma M.D. | Posted 07.05.2014 | Healthy Living
John La Puma M.D.

Prescription testosterone is unnecessary and dangerous for women and children, not just most men. Very few medical prescriptions given to a man affect a female partner and family so intimately and affect desired intimacy and passion in just the wrong way.