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Intimate Partner Violence

What We Think About When We Think About Intimate Partner Violence

Sharon Stapel | Posted 10.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Sharon Stapel

We can make the voices of LGBTQ people a part of the conversation about intimate partner violence. Really, we have to. We want DVAM, and all violence prevention efforts, to include and to be led by LGBTQ folks.

30 Numbers That Prove Domestic Violence Is An American Epidemic

The Huffington Post | Alanna Vagianos | Posted 10.26.2014 | Women

The number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. The number of American women who were murdered by curren...

Decoding Excuses For Abuse

David Adams | Posted 10.17.2014 | Women
David Adams

It is important for everyone to become more savvy about abuser's excuses because many people unwittingly reinforce them in how we respond to the abuser's "explanations" for his/her violence, and to understand what taking real responsibility means.

At Least A Third Of All Women Murdered In The U.S. Are Killed By Male Partners

The Huffington Post | Melissa Jeltsen & Alissa Scheller | Posted 10.09.2014 | Women

It's a sobering fact. At least one third of all female homicide victims in the U.S. are killed by male intimate partners -- husbands and ex-husb...

Watch How Passersby React To Domestic Violence In Public

The Huffington Post | Robbie Couch | Posted 10.07.2014 | Impact

Warning: The video above features actors, but some readers may find the footage disturbing. In a revealing social experiment, passersby respond in...

Silence = Death: Coming Out of the Queer IPV Closet

Melissa M. Wilcox | Posted 10.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Melissa M. Wilcox

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Odds are, you'll hear about straight, gender-conforming women who are or have been abused by straight, gender-conforming men. Those stories are important, but they leave queer survivors and our abusers invisible just as we are the rest of the year.

The Real Questions We Should Be Asking About #WhyIStayed

Megan Foo | Posted 09.15.2014 | Teen
Megan Foo

Scrolling down these tweets, I couldn't help but wonder: how many more women bear the same brunt of intimate partner violence? How many more women struggle to break the vicious cycle of violence and reconciliation that keeps them holding on to abusive relationships?

#WhyIStayed Is Our Hashtag, Too

Sarah Prager | Posted 11.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Sarah Prager

"Why I stayed," as a statement, is genderless, but people fill in the blanks to think it means a woman staying with a man who is physically hurting her.

9/11: On Terror, Grief and Forgetting

Jay Dodd | Posted 11.11.2014 | Black Voices
Jay Dodd

What 9/11 did to us as a nation is solidify tensions of Brown/Black bodies carrying terror. From the security line to workplace to college campuses, brown bodies are policed and monitored. But this is how we are. This is the America we foster and develop.

Change Culture, Not Cabs: Woman-Only Taxis and Commodifying Female Fear

Soraya Chemaly | Posted 11.08.2014 | Women
Soraya Chemaly

It's the car version of a million "don't get raped" products. Most solutions advocating segregation are variations of "shrink it and pink it" consumer product and public space design that suggest women have to take themselves out of spaces shared by men or risk the consequences.

Guns, Intimacy and Tragedy for Women

K. Sujata | Posted 09.15.2014 | Impact
K. Sujata

Put simply, the presence of guns dramatically increases the probability of death in incidents involving domestic violence. In 2011 almost two-thirds of women killed with guns were killed by their intimate partners.

Lies, Damned Lies, and Statistics

Joan Meier | Posted 08.26.2014 | Parents
Joan Meier

Society needs to come to grips with the reality of the risks some fathers pose for children -- and put away the childish fantasy that Fathers Know Best.

Benevolent Stands

Megan Kashner, LSCW, MBA | Posted 08.03.2014 | Impact
Megan Kashner, LSCW, MBA

In our lifetimes, almost 30 percent of women will find ourselves the victim of domestic violence. While that statistic is unnerving, it calls to light the fact that every day when we're at work, in class, at a movie, we're there alongside women who have persevered and decided to stand up after someone tried to bring them down.

Being Honest About Sexual Violence in War, and Everywhere Else

Gary Barker, Ph.D. | Posted 07.28.2014 | Impact
Gary Barker, Ph.D.

For all the sexual violence that happens in conflicts carried out by combatants or soldiers, it happens even more often in the world's bedrooms or homes.

Addressing Campus Sexual Assault Must Be a Coordinated Effort

Tony West | Posted 07.13.2014 | College
Tony West

We know that a coordinated community response -- one that relies on partnerships with student groups, campus police, community victim services organizations, campus ministries, and school officials -- is what is required to turn the tide on this issue.

Maren Sanchez and Rage as the Male Emotion

Ariel Chesler | Posted 07.01.2014 | Women
Ariel Chesler

Following the recent killing of Maren Sanchez, a 16-year-old honor student in Connecticut, by a fellow student -- Chris Plaskon -- who was apparently in love with her, everyone is searching for root causes for such violence.

Maren Sanchez and the Gender Gaps No One Is Talking About

Soraya Chemaly | Posted 06.25.2014 | Women
Soraya Chemaly

We have a national problem with not expecting or teaching boys to control themselves when they are quite clearly biologically capable of doing so. That's a gap no one is talking about on Sunday morning news programs.

Two Sides to a Statistic

Beth Morrison | Posted 05.28.2014 | Impact
Beth Morrison

It is critical that we are able to educate our adolescents about the root causes and impact of dating violence. And it is critical that we be cautious about our use of language when we do so.

On a Random Day in the U.S. There Are More Than 66,000 Requests for Help Escaping Domestic Violence

Soraya Chemaly | Posted 05.06.2014 | Women
Soraya Chemaly

The dynamics of domestic violence are complex and changing them requires not just one thing to change, but many things simultaneously.

Not Just Another Gender-based Violence Statistic

Fatou Wurie | Posted 02.04.2014 | Impact
Fatou Wurie

Let's talk about sexual and physical violence -- about how it violates the body, how it violently strips self agency of women -- and the anger, powerlessness, silence, confinement, strength, abruption, dreams, hopes, dance that it elicits. We can also talk about the serious health consequences.

Contextualizing Domestic Violence

Pierre R. Berastaín | Posted 01.23.2014 | Impact
Pierre R. Berastaín

October was National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and as we carry on with holiday preparations, it might be easy to forget that intimate partner violence happens 24/7... every day of the year.

The Intersection of Infertility and Intimate Partner Violence

Pierre R. Berastaín | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Pierre R. Berastaín

We are all responsible for our own happiness, but we are our best selves when we are contributing to the happiness of others. Instead of investing in blame and criticism, spend time enjoying each other and being grateful for the love you share. Love creates life.

Now Is the Time for Attention to Intimate Partner Violence in LGBTQ Communities of Color

Irene Monroe | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Irene Monroe

Every Monday morning, "Alex" and I met for breakfast at our favorite dive in Harvard Square. I would notice bruises and cuts on his face, arms, and legs, but I assumed that the black-and-blue marks were par for the course for a guy who played scrimmage football on the weekends.

It's Purple Month!

Wyatt O'Brian Evans | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Wyatt O'Brian Evans

It's purple month! Now, you may be wondering, "What's that?" Allow me to explain. You see, we wear purple -- actually, a purple ribbon -- to honor victims and survivors of domestic and sexual violence and abuse, generally referred to as intimate partner violence and abuse (IPV/A).

'It's (Just) the Way That I Love You': Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships (Part 5)

Wyatt O'Brian Evans | Posted 11.04.2013 | Gay Voices
Wyatt O'Brian Evans

It's time to focus on the decision to heal. First, though, let's recap what this atrocious, demeaning and potentially life-threatening behavior really is.