iOS app Android app

Judgment

The Psychology of a Memorable Lunch

Wray Herbert | Posted 04.16.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Our choices have implications, not only for how much we enjoy lunch today, but also for longer term goals like fitness and health. But how do we choose? What are the basic cognitive processes that lead from initial hunger pang to this soup or that sandwich?

23 Things I Have Learned As A Little Person

Mathew Myers | Posted 04.15.2014 | Impact
Mathew Myers

I learned to have a thicker skin. I have learned how to tell the difference between innocent curiosity and a person who is intentionally being disrespectful. I have learned that every person and every day is beautifully different.

F*ck Judgment

Sarah Fader | Posted 04.15.2014 | Parents
Sarah Fader

Parenting is stressful enough as it is. So do us all a favor and can the judgment. We're all in this together, y'all.

Finding Wisdom in a Fractured World

Harold Lloyd | Posted 04.09.2014 | Impact
Harold Lloyd

The wise person understands why we run from questions that we might not be able to answer, and why we wrongly avoid other obstacles or risks that we should face. Our default emotions have evolved to lament loss more than to celebrate gain.

Cancer or Not, When Did Making Fun of Each Other Become OK?

Rachel M. Martin | Posted 03.28.2014 | Women
Rachel M. Martin

You and I and all the women have this opportunity right here, right now to look at the women in the room with you at work or at preschool or at church or at Target or in the parking lot waiting for kids to leave school and you have the opportunity to not judge, but rather to love.

How I Finally Learned to Stop Judging Myself

Denise Ullem | Posted 03.26.2014 | Women
Denise Ullem

Each time I come to my mat I am amazed at how long it takes me to join my physical body in the present. And once I am fully present in that stark yoga studio, tears often come.

Mrs. McJudgerson At The Mall

Julie Cole | Posted 02.28.2014 | Parents
Julie Cole

We mamas have to stick together and commit to not letting the Mrs. Judgy McJudgersons' voices silence ours. We will continue to take our kids on outings and refuse to listen to any parenting poison.

The Damaging Way Women Respond To Distress

OWN | Posted 02.25.2014 | OWN

"My stomach looks so bulky." "My job is stupid." "I'll probably never find someone." We frequently hear people verbalize these types of self-critiq...

When Barbie Meets Real World

Ko Im | Posted 02.24.2014 | Women
Ko Im

Mattel stirred controversy because Barbie got a photo shoot and spread in the latest swimsuit issue for Sports Illustrated. (Who wouldn't want to change places with her or a tan, globe-trekking supermodel for a day?!)

Two Strangers on a Plane

Robin Korth | Posted 02.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Robin Korth

It was late afternoon in Portland, Oregon -- around 4 o'clock. For me, it was closer to 7 p.m., as I had been flying all day from the East Coast of ...

Premature Opinionation and Three Considerations on How to Deal With It

Misha Lyuve | Posted 02.19.2014 | Entertainment
Misha Lyuve

The humanly natural process of creating opinions, even premature ones, would be merely entertaining, if we didn't relate to our opinions as the truth. Imagine what kind of a mess we end up in when this happens.

Little Authoritarians: The Closing of Young Minds

Wray Herbert | Posted 04.07.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

The scientists predicted that children of parents high in authoritarianism would be more sensitive to cues of conventionality -- that is, that they would be more trusting of unfamiliar adults who appeared to respect conventions. And that's just what they found.

The Non-Christians' Favorite Bible Verse

Rick McDaniel | Posted 03.25.2014 | Religion
Rick McDaniel

The recent Phil Robertson Duck Dynasty controversy brought it up again. Bill O'Reilly quoted it on Fox News; Don Lemon quoted it on CNN. The favorite...

Roe-ing, Wade-ing, & Reflecting

Zach J. Hoag | Posted 03.25.2014 | Religion
Zach J. Hoag

We should advocate for women, empower their leadership and vision and fight for their rights in the midst of global oppression. That's what it means to support life.

What I Discovered by Beginning a Mindfulness Practice

D. R. Lionheart | Posted 03.19.2014 | Healthy Living
D. R. Lionheart

I can embrace myself and others with greater compassion, my life has much less conflict, I am less impulsive and less reactive, my emotions feel more balanced, my thoughts are less intrusive, I sleep well, I am in excellent health, and I spend much more time savoring the richness of life.

The Case of the Evil Genius

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.12.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

What do dishonesty and wit have in common, that they so readily occupy the same mind? Does creativity lead to unethical behavior, or do cheating and lying spur the imagination? Is creativity just a socially acceptable form of violating norms and breaking the rules?

Does Your Relationship Have IDD? -- Part 2

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 02.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

IDD (Intimacy Deficiency Disorder) is an insidious relationship-threatening condition that if unaddressed can undermine and severely damage even the m...

No Fate! Or Maybe Fate. What's Your Choice?

Wray Herbert | Posted 02.17.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Fatalism is a supernatural belief, and it can indeed have harmful consequences for the way we act in the world. But where does fatalism come from?

Tiny Foragers: How Do We Know What's Safe to Eat?

Wray Herbert | Posted 02.09.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

It's the holiday season, and we'll soon be decorating our home with greenery -- holly sprigs, poinsettia, maybe a mistletoe, and of course the tree, probably some kind of spruce. What we are doing in effect is creating a treacherous world for our youngest revelers to explore.

Accepting Responsibility

Jennifer Hamady | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Hamady

As the language suggests, it is a "response ability" -- the ability to choose our response in every moment to all that is going on around us. A choosing that allows us to claim ownership of the circumstances of our lives, and thereby, to contribute to making them better.

No Conflict: Transparency and Morals

Wray Herbert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

considerable evidence suggests that mandatory disclosure can backfire, harming rather than helping the consumer. Consumers don't act on such information, and advisors -- feeling morally licensed by their righteous act -- actually become more biased in dispensing advice.

Stop the 'Little Voice' in Your Head

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 12.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Whenever you catch yourself judging yourself, notice that there was some type of external event or internal thought that you judged. Notice that the judgment is something you added to the event or the thought.

The Moment I Realized I Had Become a Mean Mommy

Janet Casey | Posted 12.07.2013 | Parents
Janet Casey

There is a moment in every mom's life in which she realizes that she has indeed been, as I describe it, a "mean mommy."

Diary of a Student Teacher: Breakups, Compassion, and Dogfighting

Matt Bieber | Posted 12.08.2013 | Arts
Matt Bieber

Judgment likes to think that it's coextensive with knowledge, but it isn't; they're much closer to opposites. Judging doesn't want to know, because wanting to know requires admitting to not knowing.

I Attracted the Right Person, Now What?

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 12.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Listening without judgment and speaking without defensiveness is easier said than done, but with practice, mutual support and the willingness to share responsibility for the relationship that you co-create, you and your mate can create the partnership of your dreams, no matter who they are.