I had hoped that my time in D.C. working on the repeal of "don't ask, don't tell" (DADT) would go unnoticed while I took time off to teach in Korea. Google is my enemy, however, and my co-workers had a decent idea of who I am before I even stepped off the plane.
While mistakes aren't a huge issue in my life, I actually spend and waste a lot of time worrying about making mistakes, and also find myself being unnecessarily critical of those around me when they make mistakes (both overtly and covertly).
Fear of making a mistake is sometimes the barrier to taking any action, but that also prevents any learning from happening too. And every lesson serves as a building block toward the next success.
Failing is the easy part -- it's how you handle failure that will either stop you or allow you to move forward in your life, your career and your relationships.
This past spring we all heard the knocking, the repeated sound of something bumping into the window in the dining room. It didn't take long to see t...
What is the longest journey? To me, it is the one from here to enlightenment, to spiritual transformation. And without a costly misstep, or suffering, that journey can never even begin.
When you make mistakes, how do you respond? If your mistake leaves a trail of hurt and destruction in the lives of others, do you make amends and apologize with actions and empathy?
It's healthy and wise to examine choices and decisions you've made so far, and studying those that conjure up a twinge of regret offers the greatest opportunity for guiding your future and avoiding "midlife angst."
You don't have to give up on healthy high standards or trying to improve yourself. There is such a thing called "adaptive perfectionism." Here's what it looks like.
Because of what's called the actor/observer difference, it's easy for Alan Greenspan to look back over his 19 years at the Fed and see all the factors that played a role in screwing things up, and harder for him to see his own role in it.
No one remembers the Buddha as someone who made a lot of mistakes; they only remember his incredible kindness and wisdom. If we learn from the mistakes we make today, then we, too, will be remembered in the same light.