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Celebrating Pride and Family on 'Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day'

Dana Rudolph | Posted 07.31.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Rudolph

I'd like to invite all bloggers, LGBTQ and allies, to participate in the ninth annual Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day on Monday, June 2. Just post at your own blog in support of LGBTQ families (however you define them) and submit the link to mombian.com, where I'll compile and showcase the master list for all to see.

Remembering Watching With My Two Moms as Ellen Came Out (VIDEO)

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 07.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

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Waffles and Roller Coasters: Mother's Day Reflections by a Lesbian Mom

Dana Rudolph | Posted 07.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Rudolph

Being a parent can sometimes seem like trying to juggle on a roller coaster. Being an LGBT parent can sometimes seem like trying to do so without the safety belt everyone else is wearing. But the experience is really not so different for any of us. It takes balance, flexibility, and nerves of steel.

LGBT Parenting: Does Every Moment Have to Be a Teaching Moment?

Sunny Bjerk | Posted 06.28.2014 | Gay Voices
Sunny Bjerk

As LGBT youth, adults and families know all too well, bullying isn't confined to just the playground, classroom, or cafeteria -- it can happen to anyone, anywhere. And as my wife and I prepare for the birth of our first child, we have to learn when negative actions become a teaching moment.

My Invisible Honeymoon

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 06.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

She wouldn't hold hands with me, my newlywed wife, unless we hid our interlaced fingers under an airline blanket.

Wedding Bells Ring at Any Age

Judy Rickard | Posted 05.28.2014 | Gay Voices
Judy Rickard

Everyone's story is different, and yet all stories have the same basics. You meet someone, you have feelings for someone, you make that known, it works out or not. Neither Arlene nor Clara can remember much detail, other than it was "that kiss" that first sealed it.

Lesbian Moms Say Son Was Rejected By School Because They're Gay, But Then Welcomed To Apply

Posted 03.28.2014 | Gay Voices

A Texas couple claims their son was turned away from a local Montessori school because they are lesbians. Tracy Keller and her wife Dawn told WFAA ...

Straight Talk From a Lesbian Mom

Judy Appel | Posted 05.01.2014 | Gay Voices
Judy Appel

The battle for acceptance is not solely taking place in the courts, but also at playgrounds, little league games, chess tournaments and in churches, synagogues, mosques, everywhere LGBT families are quietly going about the business of raising children and living their lives.

Study Says Kids Of Lesbian Parents Are Doing Great, Thank You Very Much

The Huffington Post | Cavan Sieczkowski | Posted 02.28.2014 | Gay Voices

Same-sex parents might still have an uphill battle to forge, but a new study seems to provide a helpful push in the right direction. In a study bi...

The Problem With "Having It All"

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 05.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

"Having it all" is a myth. "Having" is far too passive, far too effortless a verb for what it takes to combine career and family life. "All" suggests a sense of wholeness that in reality most parents who earn paychecks rarely experience. Instead, we live an ever-shifting, moment-by-moment dynamic.

Parenting LGBTQ Youth: They Are Not Made Out of Glass -- They Will Not Break -- and They Are Not Broken

Lillian Rivera | Posted 02.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Lillian Rivera

Remember there is nothing wrong with your child. They are wonderfully them! They are not going to break -- in fact they are going to get stronger with your love. They are not broken -- society is broken. But we can fix it.

5 Tips for Managing the Logistics of Same-Sex Parenting of Blended Families

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 02.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Here are some ideas and examples from my dissolved and reconstituted same-sex-parents-headed family that can help parents in different households avoid feeling like one is "primary" and the other is, well, "other."

'I Wish You Were Dead So I Could Have a Daddy'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

When I was 6 years old, I told my mother that I wished that she would die so that I could have a daddy. We were in a yellow NYC taxicab on the way to my sixth birthday party. I had found my non-biological mother's Achilles' heel and swung a golf club into it. And it felt like shit for both of us.

In the Sandbox

Dana Rudolph | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Rudolph

The boy tried a different question: "What's your dad's name?" I kept silent, wanting to see how my son handled it. He paused for just a second to think. "Well, that's Mommy," he explained, gesturing to me. "And the other one's Momma, but she's at work now."

Pride Marchers vs. the 'Christians'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

When I was 8, my moms and I attended a pride march. We were marching with our rainbows and chanting, "We're here, we're queer, get used to it!" From across a waist-high barricade, the "Christians" responded, "You're here, you're queer, you won't be here next year!" So ominous.

The Great Mystery of Straight People

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

Of course, straight people were everywhere, but when they were on TV, they weren't real to me, and when they were my friends' parents, they weren't sexy to me. Young English teachers and comedy actors in movies, however, seemed both real and sexy to me.

Mom, Is 'Gay' a Bad Word?

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 12.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

B-Man leans forward and whispers in my ear, "When we were writing '-ay' words on our spelling boards today, someone wrote 'gay' and circled it as their favorite word. But someone else said 'gay' was a bad word. But it isn't, right?"

What Makes a Mother 'Primary'?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

I've been writing here about the experience of being the "other mother" for just about a month now. What is the "other mother"? How does the role develop, and where does it lead?

Our Families Are Making History

Steve Majors | Posted 10.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Steve Majors

It's taken more than three decades for families like mine to be recognized. Thirty years ago, I was at an age where I was pretty certain that I was gay, but at the time, I never could have predicted that I would one day be among 3 million parents in our country who are LGBT.

5 Signs You're the 'Other' Mother

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother?

The Perils of Heterosexual Rights

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Since fighting to be included in the heteronormative model of marriage and then being steamrolled by the heteronormative model of divorce, I've been fighting these systems from the perspective of the "other" mother.

Florida Rep. Makes Shocking Comments About Lesbian Moms

Posted 10.11.2013 | Miami

Tuesday a Florida republican equated lesbian mothers and drug abusers, labeling both "dysfunctional" and "atypical" households that get in the way of ...

Celebrating National Coming Out Day With Our Families (PHOTOS)

Leonard Wrigley | Posted 12.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Leonard Wrigley

Typically, part of the experience of being "in the closet" for any length of time is a fear of losing or becoming estranged from family. But it can also involve a fear of not having a family of one's own in the future too. This was one of my biggest concerns growing up gay.

In Adoption and Same-Sex Parenting, Who Is the 'Primary' Mother?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Answering this for myself required taking an honest look at my own experience of two mothers, one adoptive, one biological. What makes a mother "primary"? What makes a mother real?

Three Moms, One Child and a New School Year

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 12.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

This a story of a mother with two mothers who is raising children with another mother and an ex-partner mother. That's a heck of a lot of mothers! Combine these admittedly confusing family dynamics with the start of the school year and you've got a situation that's complicated at best.