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My Invisible Honeymoon

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 04.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

She wouldn't hold hands with me, my newlywed wife, unless we hid our interlaced fingers under an airline blanket.

Wedding Bells Ring at Any Age

Judy Rickard | Posted 03.28.2014 | Gay Voices
Judy Rickard

Everyone's story is different, and yet all stories have the same basics. You meet someone, you have feelings for someone, you make that known, it works out or not. Neither Arlene nor Clara can remember much detail, other than it was "that kiss" that first sealed it.

Lesbian Moms Say Son Was Rejected By School Because They're Gay, But Then Welcomed To Apply

Posted 03.28.2014 | Gay Voices

A Texas couple claims their son was turned away from a local Montessori school because they are lesbians. Tracy Keller and her wife Dawn told WFAA ...

Straight Talk From a Lesbian Mom

Judy Appel | Posted 03.01.2014 | Gay Voices
Judy Appel

The battle for acceptance is not solely taking place in the courts, but also at playgrounds, little league games, chess tournaments and in churches, synagogues, mosques, everywhere LGBT families are quietly going about the business of raising children and living their lives.

Study Says Kids Of Lesbian Parents Are Doing Great, Thank You Very Much

The Huffington Post | Cavan Sieczkowski | Posted 02.28.2014 | Gay Voices

Same-sex parents might still have an uphill battle to forge, but a new study seems to provide a helpful push in the right direction. In a study bi...

The Problem With "Having It All"

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 03.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

"Having it all" is a myth. "Having" is far too passive, far too effortless a verb for what it takes to combine career and family life. "All" suggests a sense of wholeness that in reality most parents who earn paychecks rarely experience. Instead, we live an ever-shifting, moment-by-moment dynamic.

Parenting LGBTQ Youth: They Are Not Made Out of Glass -- They Will Not Break -- and They Are Not Broken

Lillian Rivera | Posted 02.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Lillian Rivera

Remember there is nothing wrong with your child. They are wonderfully them! They are not going to break -- in fact they are going to get stronger with your love. They are not broken -- society is broken. But we can fix it.

5 Tips for Managing the Logistics of Same-Sex Parenting of Blended Families

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 02.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Here are some ideas and examples from my dissolved and reconstituted same-sex-parents-headed family that can help parents in different households avoid feeling like one is "primary" and the other is, well, "other."

'I Wish You Were Dead So I Could Have a Daddy'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

When I was 6 years old, I told my mother that I wished that she would die so that I could have a daddy. We were in a yellow NYC taxicab on the way to my sixth birthday party. I had found my non-biological mother's Achilles' heel and swung a golf club into it. And it felt like shit for both of us.

In the Sandbox

Dana Rudolph | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Rudolph

The boy tried a different question: "What's your dad's name?" I kept silent, wanting to see how my son handled it. He paused for just a second to think. "Well, that's Mommy," he explained, gesturing to me. "And the other one's Momma, but she's at work now."

Pride Marchers vs. the 'Christians'

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

When I was 8, my moms and I attended a pride march. We were marching with our rainbows and chanting, "We're here, we're queer, get used to it!" From across a waist-high barricade, the "Christians" responded, "You're here, you're queer, you won't be here next year!" So ominous.

The Great Mystery of Straight People

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

Of course, straight people were everywhere, but when they were on TV, they weren't real to me, and when they were my friends' parents, they weren't sexy to me. Young English teachers and comedy actors in movies, however, seemed both real and sexy to me.

Mom, Is 'Gay' a Bad Word?

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 12.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Cheryl Dumesnil

B-Man leans forward and whispers in my ear, "When we were writing '-ay' words on our spelling boards today, someone wrote 'gay' and circled it as their favorite word. But someone else said 'gay' was a bad word. But it isn't, right?"

What Makes a Mother 'Primary'?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

I've been writing here about the experience of being the "other mother" for just about a month now. What is the "other mother"? How does the role develop, and where does it lead?

Our Families Are Making History

Steve Majors | Posted 10.28.2013 | Gay Voices
Steve Majors

It's taken more than three decades for families like mine to be recognized. Thirty years ago, I was at an age where I was pretty certain that I was gay, but at the time, I never could have predicted that I would one day be among 3 million parents in our country who are LGBT.

5 Signs You're the 'Other' Mother

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother?

The Perils of Heterosexual Rights

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Since fighting to be included in the heteronormative model of marriage and then being steamrolled by the heteronormative model of divorce, I've been fighting these systems from the perspective of the "other" mother.

Florida Rep. Makes Shocking Comments About Lesbian Moms

Posted 10.11.2013 | Miami

Tuesday a Florida republican equated lesbian mothers and drug abusers, labeling both "dysfunctional" and "atypical" households that get in the way of ...

Celebrating National Coming Out Day With Our Families (PHOTOS)

Leonard Wrigley | Posted 12.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Leonard Wrigley

Typically, part of the experience of being "in the closet" for any length of time is a fear of losing or becoming estranged from family. But it can also involve a fear of not having a family of one's own in the future too. This was one of my biggest concerns growing up gay.

In Adoption and Same-Sex Parenting, Who Is the 'Primary' Mother?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

Answering this for myself required taking an honest look at my own experience of two mothers, one adoptive, one biological. What makes a mother "primary"? What makes a mother real?

Three Moms, One Child and a New School Year

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 12.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

This a story of a mother with two mothers who is raising children with another mother and an ex-partner mother. That's a heck of a lot of mothers! Combine these admittedly confusing family dynamics with the start of the school year and you've got a situation that's complicated at best.

Who Is In a Gay Family?

Amelia | Posted 11.30.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

"Are you a gay parent?" asked the stranger. Without a second's thought, I responded, "Yes! My 8-year-old son is gay." It wasn't until later that I realized that that wasn't what he was asking. He was asking whether I am a gay person who has kids. But that experience made me think about another.

Lesbian Mom On The Most Important Parenting Lessons She's Learned

Posted 09.25.2013 | Gay Voices

By Mary Malia for YourTango.com No girl starts life thinking, "I'm going to be a lesbian mom when I grow up!" As a child, if you're thinking about...

15 Years in the Lives of a Catholic Lesbian Couple

Marianne T. Duddy-Burke | Posted 11.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Marianne T. Duddy-Burke

We've had a rich life as a couple and as a family. In lots of ways we are very similar to many other families across the U.S. We've also had some challenges that other families don't have to deal with. Some have been cultural and legal, but those that have had the deepest impact have been religious.

Seeking My Anonymous Sperm-Donor Father

Emma Tattenbaum-Fine | Posted 12.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Emma Tattenbaum-Fine

I did once seek out my biological father. A front-page article had hit The New York Times, and I was suddenly spammed by 6,000 well-meaning friends emailing me about DonorSiblingRegistry.com.