Take the time to discover your real intention before you act. If it is to change someone or the world so that you will feel safe or better about yourself, don't act on it, because it is an intention of fear and can create only painful consequences.
A few weeks ago my Aunt Leona passed away. Her life is a testament to something I teach in my professional protocol seminars. Life is about actions. In both your personal and your professional lives, others make decisions about you based upon your observable behaviors.
The constructs upon which I co-built my family are different now. We have been through upheaval in more ways than one. We have learned that upheaval is the natural course of life. It doesn't have to be "bad" or scary or resisted.