There is much more to be done to ensure that the LGBT community is endowed with the same rights as all humans across the globe. But what I saw in Hungary last month gives me hope. People like Tim Cook give me hope. And my own son helps me believe that we will someday bring about real change in the world for justice for all.
My imaginary friend Stella and I, having fled an Italy crushed by inequity, thought at the time that there was precious little to lose. But Italy is changing. For real. And Stella and I are changing along with her. For us it's a wonderful breath of fresh air to realize that there is still a country we can return to, and for which we can still have hope.
I live in Alabama, and as most people know the south can be a very conservative place. Aside from God's love, my family is the principal source of my happiness. Like many of the SEALs I have worked with, I am willing to fight and die to protect that. Unfortunately, this state does not recognize my family, a fact that is beyond disheartening.
It's been a long road to marriage equality, and it seems we're still only halfway there. For the last two decades I've been on another fulfilling journey with our community. It's made fewer headlines than our fight for marriage rights, but it's been so important for so many families just now finding that legal recognition.
What does marriage mean to me and my wife? How is it different from what we imagined? How is it the same as what society presents about marriage? Can we live queerly in marriage? How? Why? Is marriage good for our sexuality? For our sex lives? Is marriage good for our sense of happiness? Or does it bring new layers of misery?