It's been a long road to marriage equality, and it seems we're still only halfway there. For the last two decades I've been on another fulfilling journey with our community. It's made fewer headlines than our fight for marriage rights, but it's been so important for so many families just now finding that legal recognition.
What does marriage mean to me and my wife? How is it different from what we imagined? How is it the same as what society presents about marriage? Can we live queerly in marriage? How? Why? Is marriage good for our sexuality? For our sex lives? Is marriage good for our sense of happiness? Or does it bring new layers of misery?