As a child who struggled through sexual abuse by my father from the age of four, I saw directly that those who should be aware, are not; and those who should pay attention, do not. I am one of at least 39 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse in the United States who lost a childhood.
Early this spring, I came to my ancient great-aunt with news. She was perched in her chair, sitting cross-legged like a yogi, sipping Coca-Cola, and listening to her books on tape when I opened her screen door.
If you're like me, there's probably something in your life that you're deeply passionate about. You would love to build your life around this passion, your purpose, or your craft, but you "just can't."
My father comes from a generation that has much to teach us today. We can deceive ourselves all we want that today's world holds us to a different standard, but as I get older I recognize that we also have the ability to choose the lives we want to lead.
The night of my 30th birthday, I fell asleep in my mother's childhood bedroom. The next morning, my grandparents served me Entenmann's crumb cake. It was the first birthday I celebrated without a date in 10 years. I felt whole and at peace.
While I truly believe that the choices we make and even the thoughts we think all matter greatly and affect the outcome of our existence, I also believe there is also another force at work and our role is actually more of a co-creator in our own lives.
22 is the age of in-betweens -- in between adolescence and adulthood, in between relationships, in between this job and that career -- and it's nearly impossible to know who you are when you are still "becoming."
Are you feeling content and grateful, but wish there was more going on in your life? Are you feeling fulfilled? Is there a stirring inside you to get excited about something, but you just can't put your finger on what would scratch that itch?
Discovering what it takes to lead a life that counts is something that has always fascinated me. Judging from the people I've met who live with a sense of regret and hopelessness, it's obvious that we often make mistakes in the pursuit of a meaningful life. But it doesn't have to be that way.
With unemployment at just under eight percent, it is likely that we all know friends and family affected by this tough economy. It may be difficult to admit, but at some point we run out of helpful advice. Is there a solution?
I encourage you all to stop, really stop and take stock. Make sure you are living with passion and passionately living. Surround yourself with people that raise you up, that fill your life, heart and soul with passion.
Being polite often means not communicating how we really feel. We swallow the truth to keep our jobs, our friends and to maintain the peace in the family. It's likely better that way, but when it comes to figuring out next career and life moves, half-truths will keep you stuck.
Have you ever replayed in your head pivotal moments in your life and regretted your actions or words? Ever feel a twinge when your mouth said one thing and your heart felt another? Perhaps your conscience is trying to get your attention.
You might think my fondness for this restaurant is connected to my love of good coffee and the convenient location. Possibly, but my love of coffee meetings more accurately stems from the belief that this is a great way to build relationships and conduct business.
The lower cost of living here meant they could make career choices that were less based on salary considerations, and the smaller range of choices in everything from preschools to restaurants meant they'd be less compelled to reach for things that would end up making their lives harder.
I have taken pride in my ability to plan. Whether the plan is big (when and how to buy a house or get a graduate degree) or small (where and when to go on vacation and the details of what to do), planning plays to my strengths. Scope it out, write it down, follow the script.
Just like a loaf of bread that's been left out too long, life can sometimes seem stale if we let routine take over. Whether you're looking for a complete overhaul or simply a fresh outlook, here are seven ways to renew your life today.