Seems like a scary proposition for most people to confront one of the world's best golfers about his putting stroke. But it's proof of what professional athletes have known for years: the great ones are coachable.
The loaded goal is that goal that seems to be your most important and longest-standing one -- it's the one that "for some reason, I don't seem to be able to make any real progress on," and "this year, I'm finally going to handle."
I have traveled to more than 50 countries in the past 20 years, a point of pride that came from choosing an alternative lifestyle -- one of independence, freedom, and risk. Having my daughter, Ava, four years ago began a transformation of my identity, and with it, anxiety.
But what I missed in all this searching for leisure professionals is doing leisure mentoring, coaching, or consulting for people who simply want to have fun and want some guidance in how to make the most of their leisure time -- and where to get these leisure experiences.
There seems to be a quest is toward a seemingly-impossible dream, and the journey is exhaustive. Even when all seems to be in order on the outside, there remains a longing and an unsatisfied yearning for an unidentified quality that will comfort, connect and center a person.
It's easy to accept this about our parents when it comes to technology, but we have a much harder time accepting it when it comes to emotional issues. On some level, we still think of our parents like gods.
"In many ways," said Robert, "the ultimate psychotherapy is simply to relax about things." While it was just a passing comment, the reason it has been humming along inside my mind ever since is that it so directly mirrors the experience I have with my own clients.
Rejection tends to turn us inward in a negative way -- causing us to feel unworthy, flawed, not good enough, unlovable, frustrated, confused, angry, sad, etc. -- which can get us painfully bogged down in paralyzing self criticism.
As a profession, life coaching has some branding challenges. To the general population, coaching seems to be a vague, shadowy thing that people with lots of money and lots of time do to feel better about themselves.
The field of positive psychology operates from the premise that we ought to acknowledge both the light and the dark sides of life. It focuses on positive elements of life such as character strengths, positive emotion, resilience, purpose, positive relationships, and creative achievement.
Many resolutions are just a wish and a dream (which is a great place to start), but they lack the long-term planning and vision to carry them out to success. So, why not ditch the "r" word all together and commit to real change that will last?
With the holidays here, I find it a great time to reflect on what I have achieved and to see how far I've come. It is also a great time to take a look at what I need to develop and to create new goals for 2013.
This practice is about mental and spiritual mastery, or controlling your thoughts in order to be effective and confident. Whatever is blocking you or weighing on you now is the same that will impede your path in the new year. So please, take some time to do this writing exercise.
As someone who listens to people for a living, I am often waiting to hear small truths in statements that could be written off as pipe dreams. In every big dream that is dependent on the lottery, there are little ones that need expressing right now.
In contrast, when you're letting your authentic soul shine, you have the love and energy to offer emotional nourishment to those you come in contact with. Your authentic soul is a peacemaker. It seeks nirvana, lives in the moment, and believes that something far bigger than itself exists.
As things begin to normalize in the Northeast and we begin to reassemble our lives, here's the realization that I came to: life happens. Life is going to turn out how it does. It's who I'm being that makes the difference.