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Living With Hiv

Rejected: The Struggles of Dating With HIV

Tyler Curry | Posted 11.26.2014 | Gay Voices
Tyler Curry

You are going to be rejected. It is true, and it is going to happen eventually. Someone is going to shut you down before they get to know you because you are living with HIV. It sucks, it isn't fair, and there is nothing that you can do about how they feel. But you can stop equating rejection with loss.

Living Life to the Fullest With HIV at 61 and Beyond

Patricia Shelton | Posted 12.16.2014 | Fifty
Patricia Shelton

We all think at one time or another "it isn't my problem." I too was one of those who was glad when someone had a crisis or problem and it wasn't me. The year 1991 changed my way of thinking and living.

The Day I Told Oprah About Overcoming the Shame of Being HIV-Positive

Malcolm 'MJ' Harris | Posted 12.01.2014 | Gay Voices
Malcolm 'MJ' Harris

Loved ones kept encouraging me to be more open about my status as a path to healing my shame, but the thought literally petrified me. Would people judge me? Would my status distract them from the accomplishments I had made?

Living With HIV: New Horizons

Greg Louganis | Posted 11.19.2014 | Gay Voices
Greg Louganis

A friend from the 50-something "group" and I discussed the challenges facing the population of long-term HIV/AIDS survivors. I find that this generation of people living with HIV is a big issue, what with housing and living expenses on top of insurance and medical maintenance.

Time After Time: Long-Term Survivors of HIV

Oriol R. Gutierrez Jr. | Posted 10.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Oriol R. Gutierrez Jr.

By any measure, Julie Lewis certainly qualifies as a long-term survivor of HIV. Marking 30 years of living with the virus is an achievement for anyone. However, as the mother of Ryan Lewis, one half of the Grammy Award-winning hip-hop duo Macklemore and Ryan Lewis, Julie realized she could mark the occasion with a lot of fanfare, enough to be able to give back.

How Do You Find Joy After a Positive HIV Diagnosis? This Poet Has an Answer! (VIDEO)

J Mase III | Posted 09.30.2014 | Gay Voices
J Mase III

What messages do we send people about being HIV-positive? One of my favorite poets, Timothy DuWhite, explores the concept of finding joy while dealing...

A Family's 'One-In-A-Million' Experience With HIV

OWN | Posted 06.27.2014 | OWN

On "Our America with Lisa Ling," Lisa Ling explores the social and economic forces driving the disproportionately high rate of HIV infection in black ...

Not-So-Safe Secrets in the Age of No Secrets

Zandile Mqwathi | Posted 07.02.2014 | Impact
Zandile Mqwathi

Having been diagnosed with HIV eight years ago as a young woman, I have learned some lessons in the dating scene, especially the sensitive issue of sharing the secret or hiding it.

'I'll Be Damned If I'm Going to Be Buried a Girl': Gender Transition Inspires HIV-Positive Trans Man to Live (VIDEO)

Nathan Manske | Posted 05.27.2014 | Gay Voices
Nathan Manske

2014-03-28-20140326TeoDrakesmall.jpgWhen Teo thought he had nothing else to live for, a therapist reminded him that gender transition was an option.

This HIV-Positive Man Does Not Mind Serosorting

Matthew Ebert | Posted 05.21.2014 | Gay Voices
Matthew Ebert

I am HIV-positive, and I am 100-percent OK with serosorting. Serosorting is when HIV-positive or HIV-negative men choose to have sex only with other men who share their HIV status. Some men don't mind mixing it up, and I am one of them. But I am not every man.

An HIV Status Doesn't Make You Damaged Goods

Jamar Rogers | Posted 04.12.2014 | Black Voices
Jamar Rogers

You see, you're more than a number. You're a living miracle, a breath of fresh air. You have hopes and ambitions. You dream. You hurt. You cry. You love. You are intricately weaved in the plot line of humanity's story and I, for one, am glad you're alive.

Mike Alvear, Why Are Some HIV-Negative Guys Writing About HIV When They Have No Clue?

Matthew Ebert | Posted 03.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Matthew Ebert

Who are you to call me a victim? Ever hear of the Denver Principles? In the early 1980s, a group defining themselves as the People With AIDS Caucus rejected the word "victim," and HIV-positive people still do. I am not a victim, nor is my virus a burden to me any more than it is to you.

Why Are Some HIV-Positive Gay Men Grateful for Their Disease?

Mike Alvear | Posted 03.26.2014 | Gay Voices
Mike Alvear

If I hear one more HIV-positive man tell me he's "grateful" for the disease because it made him a more peaceful, loving, open, honest person, I'm goin...

Filmmakers Address Gay Seniors Living With HIV in Desert Migration (AUDIO)

Charlotte Robinson | Posted 03.26.2014 | Gay Voices
Charlotte Robinson

Many HIV-positive men over 50 have decided that Palm Springs seems like a viable place to retire. Filmmakers Daniel Cardone and Marc Smolowitz, who are both HIV-positive, are telling these men's stories in their new documentary for the HIV Story Project, Desert Migration.

Shining a Light on Stigma in a Web 2.0 World

Laurindo Garcia | Posted 03.17.2014 | Impact
Laurindo Garcia

I gulped down some courage, reminded myself of the original intent of the photograph and then passed the phone back to my new friend with my "no shame in being HIV+" pic in full view.

The Happy AIDS Memoir

Robert Levithan | Posted 03.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Robert Levithan

After almost dying from AIDS in 1994, I choose to pass on a hopeful vision filled with joy and possibility, but that doesn't mean that I have not also lived through loss and challenges. I am committed to radical happiness.

My Dad Died Of AIDS, But Here's Why We Told People He Died Of Cancer

Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices

Photographer and AIDS activist Duane Cramer opened up about his father's diagnosis with HIV as well as his personal experience living with the virus i...

The Perils of Being a Long-Term HIV/AIDS Survivor

Matthew Ebert | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Matthew Ebert

In my circle, suicides among long-term HIV survivors seem higher than average these days. Depression and long-term HIV go hand in bloody hand. Drug addiction, especially to meth and alcohol, are entrenched.

The 2013 POZ 100: Celebrating Unsung Heroes

Oriol R. Gutierrez Jr. | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Oriol R. Gutierrez Jr.

The HIV/AIDS community has many heroes. Our best-known heroes range from celebrities and activists to politicians and researchers. But I believe that the overwhelming majority of our heroes are in our midst. The people on this year's list may not consider themselves heroes, but we do.

Putting HIV in Its Place (Part 2)

Dick Keiser Jr., Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dick Keiser Jr., Ph.D.

If you are HIV-positive, I suggest that you embrace it with all its challenges and take a chance on disclosure. The pent-up stress released by living, having a smile on your face and moving forward is worth no longer hiding -- and it can't hurt your T cell count.

Putting HIV in Its Place (Part 1)

Dick Keiser Jr., Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dick Keiser Jr., Ph.D.

I call disclosure of my HIV status "coming out with none of the benefits." However, I found that putting HIV in its proper place in my life enabled me to move forward and was incredibly empowering. But I am not saying it was, or is, easy.

Why Aren't You Out About Your HIV-Positive Status?

Mark S. King | Posted 12.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark S. King

I know that for some people, staying private about their HIV status is a matter of personal safety. But I believe a lot more people could be open about it, and their only reason for not doing so is fear. That's a powerful emotion, but fear doesn't excuse us for standing by as others are stigmatized.

Film Review: They Glow in the Dark

Laurence Ross | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Laurence Ross

What is most interesting is not Michael and Jim's health, home, or poverty but their relationship. The film is not so much a documentary as a portrait -- a diptych -- of two men living together with health issues, trying to make a living together selling clay dolls.

Coming Out Against HIV Stigma

Alex Garner | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Alex Garner

To come out about one's HIV status can be a risky prospect. We live in a world of stigma and intolerance, and all too often, coming out is met with anger, castigation and possibly even violence. But people still come out. That's what we do. We come out.

Surviving a Death Sentence

Adrian Brooks | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Adrian Brooks

We went in for our test results together. It was May 1985. Still, after three years of reluctant monogamy enforced by the dread of a sex-borne plague stalking San Francisco, I feared for my lover of seven years. Christopher was younger and had been far wilder.