My life changed when I finally understood how to access the unconditional love that is always available to all of us. What I came to understand is that love, like the air we breathe, enters our heart by invitation only.

As Valentine's Day approaches, many of us are looking for love, or maybe an improvement in an existing loving relationship. But if you can't love yourself, then who can you love?

If ever there was an emotional state that we idealize, it is love. We want nothing of its dark-belly underside, we demand that it always show only its shiniest side to us.

While romantic love can be intoxicating and ever so delicious, there is a deeper kind of love that bars no participants.

Whether we realize it or not, love is behind every motivation, impulse, desire, fear, action and reaction that we have. We've all tasted it, and we are all looking for it or for more of it.