Usually, we are not, in fact, upset about the facts. We are upset about our interpretations of the facts, and particularly, when we take these facts to mean we are being attacked or rejected in some way.
Let's pray for the hundreds of people who cling to life, whose limbs were lost, whose lives are shattered. Let's pray for the helpers who run toward chaos instead of away from it.
We bring alive the spirit of Radical Acceptance when, instead of resisting emotional pain, we are able to say "yes" to our experience. The instant we agree to feel fear or vulnerability, greed or agitation, we are holding our life with an unconditionally friendly heart.
As an exploding body of clinical research confirms that mindfulness helps reduce stress and promote healing, learning and neuroplasticity, a parallel line of study on the practice of loving-kindness has begun to converge with exciting new research on positive emotions and the brain.
Writing about kindness and compassion can help our brains tilt toward being more automatically kind and compassionate toward ourselves and others, improving our relationships and healing wounds from the past.
"Lovingkindness" is not a big book. Not at all. It's actually rather small. The pages are very tiny. And her message is not new. And yet, it is monumentally important.
Kindness is an overlooked personality trait. When speaking of our ideal partners, people talk about intelligence, looks, you name it. Kindness is often at the bottom of the list. But when you think about it, isn't kindness what we humans desire most of all?
When I first heard the Buddhist teachings on lovingkindness, compassion and forgiveness, I was incredibly skeptical. I saw those heart qualities as undesirable and perhaps unsafe.
Instead of reflexively renewing your vows or divorcing your scale once and for all, ask yourself, "Has weighing in done more to help or hinder my healthiest intentions?"
Everyone loses touch with their aspiration, and we need the heart to return to what we really care about. All of this is based on developing greater lovingkindness and compassion.