To avoid the burn of acting out during an emotional upsurge, take a few simple steps to calm your heightened spirit and quiet your uneasy mind. When the moment has passed, you'll be grateful you were able to be the master of your emotions.
Anger is a destructive act of aggression, causing others to withdraw or escalate. When we express the truth of our feelings, we forge a creative space for connection, where the magic of human interaction becomes possible. Going beneath our anger allows us to lead constructively.
If you've been dieting -- or trying to get yourself not to eat this and that -- for the past however many years, it's going to be very normal for you to experience extreme mental states around food or exercise, and weight loss.
Much of my treatment is aimed at helping patients learn how to override their brain's survival reactions and seize control of their emotions. I explain to people what they can do to control how their brain reacts. So does a person get a grip over powerful emotions?
For the first time in my 30-plus years of teaching on a university campus, I was part of an evacuation that was not just a drill. Here are the keys to "CLICK" that I found myself using in order to stay calm as this emergency unfolded.
Spring and summer are the quintessence of backyard barbecues, outdoor festivities, and beach bum days, which means a lot more mingling and mixing is done during these months. But increased exposure to others can also easily increase tensions.
Keep a record of the situations that lead to your anger and your hostility, and try to use these ideas. You might find yourself less angry -- and less anxious -- and the people who care about you will appreciate your progress. You can control your anger rather than let it control you.
One of the most important aspects of being human is the fact that we have feelings -- all day long. And yet, rarely are we taught healthy ways to cope with them. Who among us learned about coping with emotions in school?
If you pay careful attention to your emotions, you will discover, in your relationships with others, that it is often not another's behavior that is creating your misery or your inner peace or joy, but rather your own responses.