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Managing Expectations

When Not Making the Team Is A Victory

Sarah Trillin | Posted 11.24.2014 | Parents
Sarah Trillin

No one wants to watch helplessly while his or her child is in pain. But everything we know about how we can help our children become resilient adults points to the fact that this is something that we have to be willing to do as parents.

The Expectations of Whys

Susie (Newday) Mayerfeld | Posted 10.15.2014 | Parents
Susie (Newday) Mayerfeld

Why is an accusing word. A word that is inherent criticism.After all, if everything was perfect, you wouldn't need to ask why. Have you ever heard anyone ask, "Why is the house so clean?" or "Why were the errands all run?" No. You haven't.

Recovering From Your Expectation Hangover

MeiMei Fox | Posted 10.07.2014 | Books
MeiMei Fox

Labeled yourself an over-achiever? Defined yourself according to your accomplishments? And then been disappointed when life didn't go exactly according to plan?

Just Say No... To Your Kids

Dana Westreich Hirt | Posted 11.08.2014 | Parents
Dana Westreich Hirt

Why do we struggle so to say NO? We don't want our kids to be mad at us. We don't want to disappoint them. We don't want to sit in the blistering storm of their rage.

5 Reasons I (Still) Believe In Marriage

Rachel Weinstein | Posted 11.03.2014 | Weddings
Rachel Weinstein

Whether you marry someone of the same sex, of the other sex, or somewhere in between. Whether you wear a white dress or a blue feather boa. Whether you are married in a church by a priest or by yourselves under the moon with only the waves as the officiant. I believe in the commitment of marriage.

When What You Expect Is Not What Is

Tausha Cowan | Posted 10.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Tausha Cowan

Change outside our control doesn't always equate to bad change. I learn that every day, whether it's a rescheduled boat trip or something much more important to my livelihood.

Doing Your Best Isn't Good Enough

Lewis Michael Senior | Posted 09.26.2014 | Business
Lewis Michael Senior

I thought I would share some perspectives on expectations that we believe is appropriate at home, work or play in any walk of life.

Great Expectations: What Would Life Be Without Them?

Janet M. Neal | Posted 09.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Janet M. Neal

When you can let go of expectations, let go of the need for controlled outcomes, life really does flow perfectly. And there's nothing wrong with that!

Why You're Approaching Stress All Wrong (And How To Change That)

meQuilibrium | Posted 08.26.2014 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

This distance between your ideal response to stress and your actual response can be discouraging. But the situation isn't hopeless, even if you're short on money or time. The trick is twofold: start small and become aware of your thoughts.

Since I Never Heard Back From You

Erin Donley | Posted 08.23.2014 | Business
Erin Donley

Anger is one of the easiest emotions to access. Some of us even look for an excuse to go there. "Since I never heard back" gives people permission to beat themselves up and unleash their silent rage.

The One Piece Of Advice All Stepmoms Need To Hear

Peggy Nolan | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Peggy Nolan

Be yourself. Sounds pretty simple, right? This isn't just the best advice for stepmoms but for almost every woman who's trying to morph herself into the expectations she thinks other people have of her.

3 Ways Shifting Your Expectations Can Lower Stress

meQuilibrium | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

Your outlook is a product of your own relationship with expectation. What will or won't happen, no one knows. And how we deal with the stress of not knowing, whether to hope for the best or expect the worst, the idea that our expectations always directly affect an outcome is little more than magical thinking.

Throwing Your 'Hopeless Chest' Overboard: How to Get Rid of Expectations That Diminish Your Quality of Life

Christina Pesoli | Posted 10.19.2013 | Women
Christina Pesoli

Figure out what tasks have always caused you to feel inadequate as a woman, and stop letting these outdated notions and unrealistic expectations diminish the satisfaction you get out of all the things you do well.

Great Expectations = Great Disappointments

Bradley Foster | Posted 08.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Bradley Foster

There are two sides to expectations. We have to manage our own expectations and we have to be aware of others' expectations of us. Disappointment is a two-way street.

Living in the 'Should's

Dr. Debbie Magids | Posted 07.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Debbie Magids

Is the "should" you're doing getting in the way of you having the life you want? Is it contributing to you being unhappy? If the answer is yes, then you owe it to yourself to start making some new choices and releasing yourself.

What I Didn't Expect to Feel After Childbirth

Christie O. Tate | Posted 06.11.2013 | Parents
Christie O. Tate

When my daughter was born, I wondered if I was feeling what I was supposed to be feeling. I was sort of scared of her -- her big eyes and her insatiable needs -- and was convinced I should be feeling nothing but love. A tingly, full-body, constant feeling of love from my core to my limbs.

Bias Always Hurts the One You Love

Jonathan Haber | Posted 12.16.2012 | Education
Jonathan Haber

Before deciding that a campaign based on accusations of dishonesty must work, it might be worth checking your own biases at the door, at least long enough to ensure they are not leading you, your cause and your candidate over another cliff.

What My Braces Didn't Fix

Maureen Anderson | Posted 10.09.2012 | Healthy Living
Maureen Anderson

I wore braces as a teenager. No big, except for one thing. The fantasy I had of how I'd look when they came off. I imagined going from "bookish, noth...

6 Strategies To Prevent Disappointment

Tamar Chansky | Posted 09.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Tamar Chansky

You can't always get what you want. The Rolling Stones called it. But these words are as much disregarded as they are immortal. How do we prevent unmet expectations from derailing us?

Overcommitted At Work? Here's What To Do

The Grindstone | Posted 12.17.2011 | Women

I’m a “Yes” girl. Can I finish that by Friday? Yes. Would I be able to cover for someone’s vacation? Yes. Do I have time to help out another p...

Bad Attitude? Try This Mindfulness Practice

Dennis Merritt Jones | Posted 11.23.2011 | Healthy Living
Dennis Merritt Jones

What I have discovered is that what I expect from others is what I get. People generally live up to or down to the level that I expect. Why?