There are days that I turn on the TV and I am appalled at what is going on in our society. Every day the news shows us another story where someone did something so awful. It seems so many people have lost the values that many of us were brought up with. I have to wonder -- where is the responsibility? Where is the discipline? Where is the leadership? Where are the standards?
One of the first lessons you are taught in the martial arts is the concept of environmental awareness. You are less likely to be attacked if you know where you are. Who you are with. And your position within your surroundings. This concept is lost on imbeciles who insist on texting while cruising down the 405.
As a nanny and parenting consultant, I have long espoused that we are doing our children a disservice by catering to their every need and catching their every fall. But it's a hard message for parents to internalize, even harder for them to come out and say, and harder still to publish a blog about it!
When your colleague does a great job on an important project, compliment them on their success. If your competitor got the job over you, send a note of congratulations. Drop your guard, put down your competitive armor, and give yourself permission to revel in someone else's success. Make your words strong and reliable.