Margaret Paul

What Does Having Sex Mean to You?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.22.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Relationships, Neediness, Sex, Loving Sex, Needy Sex, Lack of Sex, Inner Bonding, Relationship Advice, Sexuality, Sexual Problems, Relationships Advice, Gps-Soul, Love Relationship Advice, Relationship Sex Advice, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Sex means different things to different people, and what it means to you might be having a big effect on your relationship.

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Relationships: Why You Attract Who You Attract

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.15.2012

Read More: Self-Abandonment, Margaret Paul, Emotional Responsibility, Relationships, Emotional Health, Self-Love, Relationship Help, Inner Bonding, Spirituality, Victim, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

While no one deliberately seeks out someone who is closed, negative and needy, if this is you, this is what you will attract into your life. If you want a loving relationship, then you need to do the work of learning how to take emotional responsibility

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The Power of Being 'Grokked'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.09.2012

Read More: Self-Abandonment, Margaret Paul, Self-Compassion, Empathy, Emotional Healing, Heartbreak, Inner Bonding, Compassion, Grok, To Grok, Love Relationship Advice, Definition Grok, Emotional Wellness, Relationship Advice, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

It is unrealistic to expect compassion from others when we are abandoning ourselves. If you want to experience the power of being "grokked" by others, you first need to "grok" yourself!

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How To Overcome Emotional Dependency And Create The Space You Need

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.04.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Controlling Behavior, Emotional Distance, Rejection, Spiritual Growth, Personal Growth, Mindfulness, Needing Space, Emotional Dependency, Inner Bonding, Engulfment, Conflict Resolution, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

In many relationships, one person complains about not having enough time with his or her partner, while the other complains about needing space. Find out how to resolve this conflict.

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Why Blaming Feels Good

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.16.2012

Read More: Self-Abandonment, Emotions, Margaret Paul, Self Improvement, Personal Growth, Abandonment, Blame, Emotional Healing, Self Help, Personal Development, Inner Bonding, Spirituality, Mindfulness, Blame Game, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Rather than judge ourselves for blaming -- which most of us do at times -- why not look at what the blaming is covering up and learn to lovingly manage the feelings that we are covering up and avoiding with blaming?

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Fear of Death

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.05.2012

Read More: Fear of Death, Margaret Paul, Fear, Spiritual Growth, Self Improvement, Soul, Self Help, Personal Development, Inner Bonding, Anxiety, Spirituality, Death, Hell, Emotional Wellness, Death and Dying, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you could be sure that when you die, your consciousness goes right on living -- that your soul essence cannot die -- would you still be afraid of death?

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What Program Is on Your Inner TV?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.29.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Relationships, Spirit, Obsessive Thinking, Spiritual, Spiritual Guidance, Inner Bonding, Control, Spiritual Development, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Is your inner TV on? If so, what program is on? Who has the remote -- your wounded self or your loving adult? You might want to start to notice this. The rewards of switching off your inner TV are really great!

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Who Am I?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.22.2012

Read More: David Stanley, Wounded Self, Margaret Paul, Self-Worth, Inner Bonding, Spiritual Guidance, God, Elvis Presley, Spirituality, Wisdom, Gps-Soul, Emotional Wellness, Spirit, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Take a lesson from Elvis Presley: Learn to define your own worth, instead of having to ask others, "Who am I?"

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Is Expressing Gratitude Loving or Controlling?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.20.2012

Read More: Manifestation, Margaret Paul, Frequency, Open Heart, Inner Bonding, Intent to Control, Intent to Love, Law of Attraction, Love, Gratitude, Spirituality, Mindfulness, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We are often told that gratitude is a powerful way to open the heart and manifest what we want. And it does open the heart and support manifestation -- when our gratitude is coming from a sincere desire to be loving to ourselves and with others.

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'Why Are My Partners Always Needy?'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.08.2012

Read More: Personal Responsibility, Self-Abandonment, Controlling Behavior, Margaret Paul, Neediness, Caretaking, Emotional Healing, Inner Bonding, Self-Judgment, Conscious Relationships, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

A patient of mine realized that if he wanted to attract a loving and caring woman who took responsibility for herself, he would have to learn to be loving and caring toward himself.

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'You're Not Meeting My Needs'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.05.2012

Read More: Marriage, Margaret Paul, Marriage Counseling, Relationships, Marriage Advice, Relationship Help, Relationship Advice, Inner Bonding, Conscious Relationships, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

How did we get the idea that marriage is about the other person meeting our needs, or about our meeting the other person's needs?

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Is There a 'Right Way' to Parent?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.28.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Loving Parenting, Parenting Help, Children, Raising Children, Inner Bonding, Parenting, Parenting Advice, Parents, Parents News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Loving parenting means that you do not become rigid in your parenting, believing that you have found the right way to parent. It means that you stay tuned into each child, tuned into your own inner guidance with each child and with each situation.

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Should I Give Up Me To Not Lose You?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.27.2012

Read More: Different Values, Inner Bonding, Margaret Paul, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Personal Growth, Loving Relationships, Happy Marriages, Conscious Relationships, Compromising in Relationships, Compromise Relationships, Compromise and Relationships, Learning and Relationships, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

How far can you afford to bend your values to preserve your relationship? How far can you go in giving yourself up to avoid losing your partner? Most relationships require us to bend to a certain extent, but how much can we bend without a loss of self? There is an inherent paradox in these questions.

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The Power of Kindness in Your Relationships

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.17.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Controlling Behavior, Relationship, Relationship Help, Self Help, Personal Development, Relationship Advice, Inner Bonding, Loving Kindness, Conscious Relationships, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Which is more important to you in your relationships -- to be kind or to control?

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8 Ways to Mess Up Your Kids

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.08.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Child Abuse, Child Family, Child, Children, Parenting Tip, Inner Bonding, Parenting, Child Health, Parents, Parents News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Most parents REALLY want to be good parents. But since it is rare for parents to take parenting classes before becoming parents, we inadvertently do l...

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Why Do You Blame?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.09.2012

Read More: Self-Abandonment, Margaret Paul, Anger, Loneliness, Self-Love, Blame Game, Heartbreak, Judgmental, Self-Judgment, Compassion, Emotional Intelligence, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Why do we blame ourselves and others? What is the payoff?

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Resistance: What You Judge Won't Budge

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.04.2012

Read More: Shame, Anger, Controlling Behavior, Margaret Paul, Spiritual Growth, Personal Growth, Self Help, Resistance, Motivation, Self-Judgment, Clutter, Control, Emotional Wellness, Emotional Intelligence, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

How often do you tell yourself that you are wrong, bad, inadequate, unworthy, a jerk, stupid and so on? I've found, in the many years I've been counseling, that most people are frequently inwardly judgmental.

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Beauty, Gratitude and the Open Heart

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.28.2012

Read More: Loving Yourself, Margaret Paul, Open Heart, Inner Bonding, Spiritual Guidance, Spiritual Connection, Beauty, Soul's Journey, Gratitude, Spirituality, Inner Peace, Joy, Mindfulness, Women-Authentic-Beauty, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Notice the peace and joy it gives you to be in this moment with this simple object of beauty. What would life be like if you spent more moments like this, in the present with beauty and with all you have? How much of your waking time is spent in this way?

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Seeing the Souls of Your Children

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.26.2012

Read More: Intent, Margaret Paul, Loving Parenting, Controlling Parenting, Inner Bonding, Parenting, Authoritarian Parenting, Parents, Parents-Toddlers, Intention, Parents News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Your toddler is having her second tantrum of the day while your four-year-old son is racing around the house with the neighbor's child. You feel compl...

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When You Love Yourself, You Let Others Off the Hook

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.25.2012

Read More: Self-Abandonment, Loving Yourself, Higher Self, Margaret Paul, Loving Relationships, Self-Worth, Loving Partnerships, Sharing Love, Selfish, Mindfulness, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Frequently, when I start to work with a new client, they believe that loving their self is selfish. Nothing could be further from the truth.

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Are You Letting Your Children Manipulate You?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.20.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Loving Parenting, Good Parenting, Mothering, Parenting, Tantrums, Mothering Advice, Parenting Advice, Self Worth, Parents News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Rachael is the young mother of Nathan, who just turned two. Rachael is a stay-at-home mother who works part-time at home and has the help of a houseke...

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7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.19.2012

Read More: Personal Responsibility, Margaret Paul, Courage, Relationships, Service, Relationship Help, Relationship Advice, Compassion, Gratitude, Conscious Relationships, Healthy Living News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Good relationships don't just happen. I've discovered seven choices you can make that will not only improve your relationship, but can turn a failing relationship into a successful one.

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Protecting Your Child's Innocence

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.13.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Protecting-Your-Children, Trusting Feelings, Open Heart, Inner Bonding, Innocence, Closed Heart, Trusting Yourself, Parents News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Part of our job as parents is to teach our children to trust a deeper level of inner knowing, the level that says in the heart or stomach, "This feels wrong." "This feels bad." "This feels dangerous."

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The Secret To Better Sex With Your Spouse

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.19.2012

Read More: Marriage, Margaret Paul, Relationships, Neediness, Sex, Resistance, Inner Bonding, Passion, Sexual Attraction, Love, Sexuality, Sexual Problems, Intimacy, Control, Women News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Love-making in long-term relationships is the result of loving energy flowing between two people. If something is blocking this loving energy, the sexual energy between them gets blocked.

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Authoritarian Parenting, Permissive Parenting or Loving Parenting

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.14.2012

Read More: Margaret Paul, Loving Parenting, Permissive Parenting, Inner Bonding, Parenting, Authoritarian Parenting, Parenting Advice, Parents, Parents News
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Our society swings back and forth between authoritarian and permissive parenting. This article describes why neither works to raise emotionally healthy children, and what does work.

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