It's just possible that if you do some or all these things, your relationship and your life in general will become less boring and more exhilarating. It might also become more challenging and stimulating. But who knows? You might get to enjoy living on the edge.
To keep your marriage or long-term relationship low-stress, strong and happy, it's critical to learn to manage your attitudes and emotions and lead with your heart -- from that intelligent, self-secure place inside where wisdom, intuition and understanding reside.
With the 2012 presidential race now reaching a fever pitch, it may sound like political opposites Donna and Frank don't have much in common. But as it turns out they do, and it's something major: Donna and Frank have been happily married for almost 50 years.
Because of our sexuality we felt additional pressure to appear publicly unbreakable. We knew that people in our own families, as well as many more strangers, would be pleased to see us, a queer couple with a young baby, break up. It made me sick to give those people that satisfaction.
Sometimes, years pass before we have that lightbulb moment -- noting situations we neither predicted nor imagined -- something like separate vacations or separate activities which, taken to an extreme, may lead to separate lives.
The other day I had lunch with a long married girlfriend who was bemoaning the fact that, for fifteen years, she and her husband hardly ever fought, and now, in the last five, they frequently do, which she mostly attributes to the strain of having young children.
Few of us are surprised when the young and famous break up. But when celebrated marriages weather decades of ups and downs and then dissolve? Those still have the ability to stun, and can even lead to second looks at our own relationships.
As a child of divorce, Obama is more likely to be sensitive to policies that protect children and more likely to make family health care coverage a priority, since many divorced women lose their coverage.