One of my close friends was telling me recently how when his kids are happy he's happy and when they're not, he's not. My wife's version of this is: "You're only as happy as your most unhappy child." I agree.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 12.31.2009 | Living
When tension exists between you and someone else, the only thing that will not create more defensiveness is a sincere apology. Apologies also make the apologizing person feel better.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 12.28.2009 | Living
The times may be very different from 1961, but the need to have a transformational possibility issued by a transcendent leader is even greater than it was then.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 12.28.2009 | Living
There are no positive reasons for dating a married man. Even the good reasons don't stand the test of time and turn out to be bad ideas in good ideas' clothing.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 12.22.2009 | Living
If you become that person who is more interested in others than in being interesting and invite others to share their feelings, thoughts and actions then you too can overcome your shyness.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 12.16.2009 | Media
Tiger's underlying error is his delusion that he has a private life. He doesn't. Nor does anyone else who lives in the limelight and receives $100 million a year to do it.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 12.16.2009 | Living
The even greater benefit of giving in this manner is that you find out not only the non-profits and charities that your clients support, but get to hear the story of how and why they chose them.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 12.09.2009 | Living
A mistake stops being a mistake when you admit you've made it, make amends (if necessary) for it, learn the lesson it has to teach you, and implement that lesson going forward so that it never reoccurs.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.27.2009 | Living
Yesterday was the 2nd annual National Day of Listening. One of the things that makes it easy for me to listen, is when I hear memorable quotes that cause me to pause -- my mind wants to savor them.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.23.2009 | Living
Make giving thanks the center piece of your Thanksgiving by having each person give a Power Thank You.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.18.2009 | Living
Do you have any relatives or friends that ruin everyone's time on Thanksgiving or Christmas and you can't un-invite them?
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.18.2009 | Living
What does it take to be happy in a relationship? If you're working to improve your marriage, here are the 10 habits of happy couples.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.09.2009 | Living
Often, in troubled relationships, instead of admitting their disappointment, couples resort to one of two ways of avoiding it. They either shut down or they become enraged.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.10.2009 | World
Major Nidal Malik Hasan was not a bad person. He was even possibly a good person. But he was a very sick person who did a terrible thing.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 10.29.2009 | Living
Recently when I see couples, families or individuals in which an Axis I psychiatric illness (depression, anxiety, bipolar illness, schizophrenia), is clearly not present, I offer them the following choice...
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 10.28.2009 | Living
Opportunists are about extending a grasp in an already competitive environment. They are about being grabby, and when they have the clout of a Microsoft, about being "pushy."
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 10.20.2009 | Living
I am not an evolution doubter. I believe it is real. I believe it has happened to bring us to where we are now. However, I also believe that it is on hiatus.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 10.24.2009 | Living
After listening and caring about the needs of the world around us, a break certainly gives us a break, but what works even better is to have the world reciprocate by listening and caring about us in return.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.29.2009 | Living
Ed Wallace uses real-life stories, examples, and insights from his success as a sales leader to show you how to establish and maintain positive relationships, and the importance of credibility, authenticity, and integrity.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.25.2009 | Living
The real problem is those from both sides of the political spectrum who are filled with rhetoric -- full of sound and fury, signifying nothing -- who rarely take action.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.17.2009 | Living
In 1972 while attending medical school, I was working part time doing EKG's at a Jewish Home for the Aged. It was a clean and nice facility, but like most of its kind, a "waiting station" before people died.
Keith Ferrazzi | Posted 11.16.2009 | Living
After watching Mark Goulston work, I can tell you why everyone from the FBI to Oprah pays attention when he talks about reaching people: his techniques, simple as they sound, really work.
Dr. Patricia Fitzgerald | Posted 11.09.2009 | Living
Have you noticed that the pace of our society seems to get faster all the time? People report having less in-depth, meaningful conversations, yet have more breadth of connection.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 11.08.2009 | Living
Over and over again, we see the right wing steadfastly digging their heels in before gathering, listening to and evaluating all the facts regarding going to war, education and health reform.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 10.23.2009 | Living
Whenever your preteen or teenage kid has screwed up, teaching them a lesson after the fact isn't exactly the easiest task.
Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 01.04.2010 | Living