Married couples know the "for better or for worse" vow well, but what about the often boring in between times? Waiting for tense or lackluster phases of a marriage to just pass is one tactic but can lead to permanent indifference or unhappiness. Couples can also choose to take the reins and recharge their marriages with some work.
I start by saying something silly, my normal approach to "helping" my wife. The opening salvo launched to combat her frustrations and unhappiness. I'm usually pretty deft at this dance, but this time she just looked at me and said, "Stop trying to fix me and LISTEN." She didn't say it angrily, she just said it matter-of-factly.