My advice to my daughters and to all young women out there is this: no one can "have it all" unless they are willing to change. The days of staying in the same job until retirement are over. We will all have to reinvent ourselves at various stages throughout our lives.
I used to tell people that ours was an easy marriage, that for some inexplicable reason, we had been given the cosmic gift of being able to love each other easily and well. And on some level, it's true.
My husband and I approach snowstorms differently. It's not that we divide and conquer in the traditional ways you might expect, where he handles the outdoor work and I stock the pantry. Economically speaking, my approach is laissez-faire, while his is more, well, active intervention.