The move toward equality for everyone who wishes to marry is cause for celebration. It also provides an opportunity to reflect on marital status more generally, and to look for ways to equalize those who wish to marry and those who don't.
Though they may be slaying the spider in the bathtub instead of dragons, you know what it means to have found someone who saves you in little ways each day. Even princes need a few reminders that they are appreciated.
If you are planning a wedding in the near future, have the conversations about money and property ownership. Whether you are starting your marriage with only a few dollars in your bank account or with years of savings and inherited property, initiate this conversation with your partner.
Because I love my friends and can sit on my married perch and spew advice, I have a few things to say. Not to my amazing friends who are the real deal, the total package, the prize. But for the guys they date. Just a few pointers.
There you are, perfectly happy with who you are and someone loves you enough to ask you to marry them, or to say yes to your offer, and suddenly you become engaged and need to lose 20 pounds in order to get married? It doesn't make any sense.
It took me years to realize how destructive the pursuit of perfection really is. Thinking you have to do things perfectly and/or be perfect is like carrying around a heavy weight on your back, and it absolutely crushes happiness.
We weren't "ready" for marriage. We hadn't tried it out. According to conventional wisdom, we were "unprepared." We were two, apart, only dating -- courting, really -- until we were one. We were unmarried, and then we were married.
I'm recently engaged. I blew all of my rent money, hid the little shiny in my back pocket, and proposed successfully the last night of 2012. The ring doesn't fit quite right and the wedding won't be for another year or two, but none of that really matters after that elusive "yes."