I recently had a client I'll call Sandy, who loved a man named Jeff. Yet they had broken up at least three times during the two and a half years they'd been together. While apart, an intense longing for the other would occur and they'd come back together celebrating a harmonious honeymoon truce with a lot of love and a lot of sex. But it wouldn't take long for the problems to reappear.
SPECIAL FROM BetterAfter50 by Kay Newton I am a single woman, in my early 60s, divorced for over a decade. I have met dozens of interesting smar...
My wish list of 20 qualities I want in my next lover received more than 1,000 comments. The level of anger and cynicism from hundreds of women frankly puzzled me. Absent a list as a starting point, there's lots of wasted time and little hope for success. Making a list of what you consider non-negotiable qualities is simply smart dating.
Ann Brenoff's recent article, Love Over 50: 20 Traits Boomer Women Want in Their Next Lover, made me think about my own search. Here's my top 20 wish list for my next Boomer lover.
Due to a minor computer snafu on my part, my name will be forever linked to an anonymous column we ran on Huff/Post50 on open marriage. When I discovered this, I wondered what my husband of nearly 20 years would think. Not to mention my daily-Mass-attending Irish Catholic mother and mother-in-law, my ten siblings, four siblings-in-law, and the principals at my kids' Catholic schools. My father, nine years in heaven, was no doubt laughing his head off.