Back when you were in your teens or early 20s, you probably didn't date all that much. In an environment like high school or college, you were surrounded by men and women who were single and young just like you were. When you found someone, you hung out and really got to know each other before you fell in love and chose to marry.
I recently had a client I'll call Sandy, who loved a man named Jeff. Yet they had broken up at least three times during the two and a half years they'd been together. While apart, an intense longing for the other would occur and they'd come back together celebrating a harmonious honeymoon truce with a lot of love and a lot of sex. But it wouldn't take long for the problems to reappear.
SPECIAL FROM BetterAfter50 by Kay Newton I am a single woman, in my early 60s, divorced for over a decade. I have met dozens of interesting smar...
My wish list of 20 qualities I want in my next lover received more than 1,000 comments. The level of anger and cynicism from hundreds of women frankly puzzled me. Absent a list as a starting point, there's lots of wasted time and little hope for success. Making a list of what you consider non-negotiable qualities is simply smart dating.
Ann Brenoff's recent article, Love Over 50: 20 Traits Boomer Women Want in Their Next Lover, made me think about my own search. Here's my top 20 wish list for my next Boomer lover.