Just like when you go to a cafeteria and walk around, picking and choosing what you want to eat, men are only selecting and responding to the messages and responses that appeal to them most.
I don't want to claim that men are always the problem. No group is perfect. But I can see that a lot of times men have a great deal of difficulty validating and emotionally supporting the women in their lives.
Are you a real man? Turns out that is a pretty silly question. But for too long men have been scared off having real conversations about just what kind of man they are, and hope to become.
Men don't talk because the very vocabulary for day-to-day life has been so dominated by a female frame of reference that we've lost the ability to explain ourselves in any meaningful way.