You need to realize that being a father is an important aspect of manhood. It's essential to a man's self-esteem and sense of worth. That respect makes him feel strong, powerful and invulnerable. But respect isn't a given; it has to be earned every day. And that's hard, since there is so much men can't control, especially at midlife.
Here's a heads up for the post 50 single men out there... We ladies are so excited when you choose us as the "girl" you want to meet. Hours before our date with you, we are worrying whether you'll like us. Our bedroom floor is littered with clothes as we look for just the perfect outfit to impress you. Then the date happens and sometimes we're bewildered by who we meet.