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Miscarriage

My Cause Is Better Than Your Cause

Cindy Brandt | Posted 10.21.2014 | Impact
Cindy Brandt

There is a phenomenon of what I call, "First-World-Problem-Shaming," where we make people feel bad about their anxieties because somewhere in the world children are starving.

The Day My Life Changed Forever

Deborah Cruz | Posted 10.16.2014 | Parents
Deborah Cruz

I could not say it out loud because then it would be real and then my baby would be dead. The promise of our baby would be broken. Life would be different. I would be different. It would all be less. I would never get to hold my baby in my arms because my baby was gone.

Loss is Loss and Comparison Only Leaves Us Alone In It

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.16.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Does it hurt less that I have lost three, but she has lost five? Does it hurt less that you at least got a couple of years with him? Does it hurt less that she lived a longer life and mine never grew?

Why My Miscarriage Was a Miracle

Taraleigh Weathers | Posted 10.15.2014 | Parents
Taraleigh Weathers

Most of the things you aren't supposed to say are the things that made me feel better. After reading that, I thought for a moment, Maybe things don't happen for a reason... then what the heck is going on?

he Storm That Follows a Lost Pregnancy

Tina Donvito | Posted 10.15.2014 | Parents
Tina Donvito

The snow did indeed come, and as we hunkered down at home I was glad the world was howling along with me. The storm was an aberration against nature, just as losing my baby was. Snow in October is not supposed to happen. Losing your baby is not supposed to happen.

5 Ways Pregnancy After a Miscarriage Is Different

Meredith Hale | Posted 10.15.2014 | Parents
Meredith Hale

A miscarriage is a scar that never fully fades; no matter how much time goes by, a shadow of that loss always lingers.

A Story of Pregnancy Loss

Kelly Fig Smith | Posted 10.15.2014 | Parents
Kelly Fig Smith

Many of the feelings I experienced soon after our loss were expected: sadness, deep grief, anger. But what surprised me most, and what I wasn't prepared for was the shame -- the overwhelming feeling that I had failed in the way that mattered most, and that it could never be forgiven.

Three Is The Magic Number

Lauren Stevens | Posted 10.09.2014 | Parents
Lauren Stevens

The doctor left the room, and I went in to use the bathroom, the sound of the woman in the adjoining room's healthy baby's heartbeat echoing off the cold tile.

I Can't Share Your Joy

Sarah Warman | Posted 10.07.2014 | Women
Sarah Warman

I see the updates. I see the newly posted pictures of a growing belly. I see the pictures of a nursery that was tirelessly decorated. I have the same pictures. But you'll never see them. It's not because I'm ashamed of my belly or because I'm an awful painter or decorator. It's because I didn't get the happy ending.

Stretch Marks of the Soul

Jessica Zucker, Ph.D. | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Jessica Zucker, Ph.D.

I'm trying to figure out how best to honor my pregnancies -- all three -- and the body that housed them. They don't necessarily need to be emboldened in my postpartum size and I guess stretch marks of the soul are the stretch marks that aren't readily visible to anyone other than me.

Should We Have A Third Child?

Aaron Gouveia | Posted 09.29.2014 | Parents
Aaron Gouveia

I don't know if we'll have another baby. That will most likely involve IVF and all the risks, effort, and potential for disappointment and heartbreak that carries with it. But at the very least, I now have an answer to the question.

The Club You Never Want to Be Part Of

Ana Mayer | Posted 09.19.2014 | Women
Ana Mayer

I won't tell you to hang in there. I don't expect you to cheer up just because people keep saying encouraging things to you. I actually will say the opposite: you are allowed to be sad, frustrated and even angry.

How to Deal with the Pain of Miscarriage

Alexis Meads | Posted 09.12.2014 | Women
Alexis Meads

It was such a gift to realize that I was not alone. So many women have miscarriages, even ones who have healthy babies now. It is nature's way. And it can also be a cleansing process to have a healthy pregnancy going forward.

Magic

John Roman, Ph.D. | Posted 08.29.2014 | Parents
John Roman, Ph.D.

The thing about loss is that it's not a dark, brooding presence. Not like in the movies. Not in reality. Loss hibernates.

My Son Died So I Could Live -- But His Legacy Continues To Bloom

Jennifer Ross | Posted 08.25.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Ross

Deep down in the depths of my soul, I knew that his purpose in life is being fulfilled. This isn't a fact that is easily accepted. My soul knows something that my earthly body continually fights.

The Decision We Agonized Over, But Do Not Regret

The Next Family | Posted 10.21.2014 | Parents
The Next Family

At conception and in the months before birth, we make parental choices before we meet our child or children. The best we can do is to make educated decisions based on science, faith and what we feel is right.

When the Baby You Adore Becomes a Teenager

Kathy Radigan | Posted 10.07.2014 | Parents
Kathy Radigan

Unlike the deep bouts of doubt I once had over whether I was a good actor or singer, or the doubts I can have today over whether I'm a good writer, blogger, gardener or even friend, I don't have too many over my ability as a mother.

What NOT To Say After Miscarriage or Child Loss

Seleni Institute | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Seleni Institute

When someone you love loses a baby, you may feel helpless and uncertain about how to respond. And you might not get it right. If you've never experienced such a loss yourself, how can you know what your friend or family member needs at this terrible time?

Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

Dads Suffer Too: Helping Bereaved Fathers Cope With Loss

Em & Lo | Posted 08.12.2014 | Parents
Em & Lo

With Father's Day upon us, it is time to speak to the unacknowledged grief of men who suffer baby loss.

My First Father's Day Without Dad

Susan Vernicek | Posted 08.02.2014 | Women
Susan Vernicek

I lay in bed at night thinking of my dad and how each day I feel is getting to be too "normal and routine."

One Good Egg: The Decision

Wendy Burch | Posted 07.15.2014 | Women
Wendy Burch

Three years of failed fertility treatments makes you re-think a few things. If I used a donor egg, would I love that child any less? If I carry that baby for nine months, can anyone tell me it's not mine? Do I think my kid is going to care that mommy needed a little help to bring him or her into the world?

Throwing A New Mom Pity Party

Kate Rope | Posted 07.13.2014 | Parents
Kate Rope

That's what life is -- messy and filled with highs and lows. And, when it comes to motherhood, we need to normalize the lows.

Being Pregnant in a Man's World

Carla Shutak | Posted 07.11.2014 | Women
Carla Shutak

I can think of no better way to honor the 100th anniversary of Mother's Day, and the activism that originated the celebration, than to consider the most fundamental part of becoming a mother.

Can We Please Tone Down Mother's Day This Year?

Rabbi Robyn Fryer Bodzin | Posted 07.06.2014 | Women
Rabbi Robyn Fryer Bodzin

This is the week that I was supposed to give birth to my first child and celebrate my first Mother's Day as a mom.