It's no secret that sex is a big deal for teenagers. They think about it, they talk about it. And usually, they do it. On average, both males and females in the US and UK first have sex at 16. Which, if you're the parent of a teenager or young adult, can suddenly start to feel very real. Have you ever wondered where all those teenagers are doing it?
The days of sitting your sons and daughters on your lap and giving them a stern lesson about the complexities of life no longer matter, because that was your life, not theirs. The days of going to college, getting a good job and doing just enough to get by for 40 years is also over. If you love your kids and want the best for them, stop giving them advice and stop guiding them.
If I try and squeeze it all in and hold it all together, it shows. I snap at my family. I miss out on much-needed sleep because my brain buzzes with my to-do list. I miss so many moments because I'm obsessing and worrying about everything I'm not doing. Saying no to opportunities that don't serve me helps. Yoga helps. Meditation helps. Writing helps.
I don't want my children to feel the anxiety I feel, and that I see all around me. I don't want them to frantically research and read and look outside of themselves to determine what is right from wrong. I want them to be inspired by our family, and feel that they have inherited traditions, values, and wisdom that they can trust.