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Morty Lefkoe

Do You Suffer From the Imposter Syndrome?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 02.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

I remember a client I had many years ago -- an executive in a large aerospace firm -- who complained about a little voice in his head that was constan...

I Don't Agree With the Thesis in Malcolm Gladwell's Latest Book

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 04.10.2014 | Books
Morty Lefkoe

I've had read and enjoyed all of Malcolm Gladwell's books, so I was really looking forward to his newest one, David and Goliath. After reading it, ho...

Are You Able to Choose What's Good for You?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 04.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Why do we so often do things that we know are not good for us? Why do we choose a career we know is not going to make us happy? Why do we choose a m...

How to Get Over Your Fear of Taking Action

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 03.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Procrastination -- putting things off as long as we can -- is nothing more than the fear of taking action. And we fear taking action because of a fea...

Are You Afraid to Approach Women?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 02.02.2014 | Healthy Living
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Feeling uncomfortable around others is one of the most common problems people have to contend with. There is a subcategory of such people who specifi...

The 'Opposition" Isn't Right... But Neither Are You

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
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I'm not at all suggesting you give up your viewpoints or your beliefs. Feel free to hold on to any point of view you want. And continue to argue and fight for them. Just don't claim that yours are true and that someone else's is false. None of them are "the truth." And it's fine to prefer one to the other.

Eliminate Your Negative Emotions, Keep Your Positive Emotions

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

As I've explained in many posts in the past, it is possible to get rid of almost all your emotional stress and suffering by getting rid of your negati...

Things Aren't Always What They Seem

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 12.22.2013 | Healthy Living
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It turned out that we found a much bigger house, with more light, a beautiful backyard, in a great location -- for less money than we had been paying. The need to move, which initially had seemed like such terrible news, turned into a very positive thing for us.

Stop the 'Little Voice' in Your Head

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 12.11.2013 | Healthy Living
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Whenever you catch yourself judging yourself, notice that there was some type of external event or internal thought that you judged. Notice that the judgment is something you added to the event or the thought.

What Does a Coach Have That You Don't Have?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 11.26.2013 | Healthy Living
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Ultimately the most important thing coach can do is not merely point out opportunities you can't see because of your different worldview, but help you change your own worldview.

How to Stop Suffering

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 11.17.2013 | Healthy Living
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A few months ago I delivered a TEDx talk in Hoboken. TEDx is the local version of the TED talks that are given annually in Long Beach, Calif. and that...

What Was Steve Job's 'Secret'?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 11.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

A lot has been written about Steve Jobs since his death that attempts to explain the source of his brilliance and creativity. What was it about him t...

5 Ways to Avoid Mental Pain and Suffering

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 10.20.2013 | Healthy Living
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For one week be aware every time you experience any mental pain or suffering. Don't suppress it. Experience it fully for just a moment.

Don't Give Up, Ever, No Matter What

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 10.07.2013 | Healthy Living
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How would you be living your life today if you hadn't been able to speak until you were almost 4 years old and your teachers said you "would never amo...

Life Is a Game and You Make the Rules

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 10.04.2013 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Life is a game just like all the other games. The only difference is that life is the only game that we don't realize is a game. Each of us has made up, largely unconsciously, a set of rules (our values) -- based on our worldview and our beliefs -- and we think our rules are right and inherently true.

Is It Really All Going to Turn Out?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 09.16.2013 | Healthy Living
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For a large part of my life I intended things to turn out, I wanted things to turn out, I did my best to make things turn out... but deep down, I felt that they wouldn't.

Why Motivation Can't Work

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 09.09.2013 | Healthy Living
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It really is possible to be what you want to be, do what you want to do, and have what you want to have. Life does not have to be a series of frustrations and disappointments. The tools exist to remove your barriers to true happiness and satisfaction.

To Be Trusted Requires a Focus on Others

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 09.01.2013 | Healthy Living
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Apart from obvious things, like not keeping your word or betraying a confidence, what is it that people do (or don't do) that would keep others from trusting them?

A Father's Day Thank You

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 08.14.2013 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

How do you protect a child from harm, make sure they do what needs to be done, learn what they need to learn -- while at the same time making sure they don't conclude I'm powerless or I'm not good enough?

Why Forgiveness Is Not Important

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 08.12.2013 | Healthy Living
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Dissolve the meaning that seems to make forgiveness necessary and there will be nothing left to forgive.

Trying to Be 'Positive' Doesn't Work

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 08.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Unfortunately, pretending that you don't feel what you actually feel doesn't make the feelings go away. Yes, you can suppress them so that you aren't fully in touch with them for a short time. But feelings that you are not in touch with still affect your health and your behavior.

You Do Not Have to Suffer

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 07.29.2013 | Healthy Living
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Because it is the meaning we give events that produces most of our suffering, by no longer giving meaning to events, you can stop your suffering.

Painful Memories Don't Have to Be Painful

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 10.24.2012 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Do you have memories that recur from time to time that are painful? Are there events from the past that upset you every time you recall them?

Disaster or Opportunity? You Choose

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 10.16.2012 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Looking back at such experiences we often realize they weren't nearly as bad as they seemed. In fact, sometimes they even turned out to have a lot of benefits, yet at the time they seemed like disasters.

Treatment for Social Anxiety

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 08.08.2012 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

If you feel emotional discomfort about social situations, interactions with others, or being evaluated or judged by others, you may have "social anxiety" -- a problem shared by almost 20 million others in the United States.