Grace is defined as effortless poise, beauty and charm; it is also described as the unmerited favor and blessing of God. In my personal lexicon, giving and receiving grace is also about letting others -- and myself -- off the hook. Maybe that's why my girl turns cartwheels in grocery stores, speaks her mind without fuss or filter, and lives and loves off the hook and in full color.
There's something compelling about the narrative of the Difficult Mother. You know, the mother you love but who has never fully understood you or approved of you or validated your life. The mother you grew distant from, only to reconnect with later in life, perhaps after the birth of your child or the death of a loved one or a sign of your mother's oncoming frailty.