Everyday in some shape, form, or fashion, I was being told that I would be dead or in jail by the age of 25 and that my life didn't matter much. It wasn't until I started to look for approval from within, that life started to turn around.
All entrepreneurs must overcome fear to start their endeavors. Sylvester Chisom overcame this fear early on, when he founded his first business at age 17. Now, 11 years later, he is committed to helping other young entrepreneurs take the leap.
Eventually, it all gets done, but it's that worrying of having pending issues to close out, which can sometimes lead to just not knowing how to get started. Therefore, let's shift our focus on what we can control.
It's all about what happens before you walk out onto the stage. In a way, the most important audience for my talk, the place where it had the most impact for change, wasn't out there in the crowded room. It was right here, in me.
The simple truth is this: Our self-concept is our destiny. So if we want to change our destiny for the better, we need to change our concept and beliefs about our selves also for the better. We always have the freedom to choose better thoughts.
When you're in school, the goals were outlined clearly. You studied hard, got the A, and that was that. On the job, success is not nearly so clear and it's easy for things to drag on with no clear end in sight.
Weight loss by criticism is more than TV reality, it's the American way. If you want your body to be all that it can be, you can enlist a relentless trainer or do the job yourself. After all, you are your own worst critic. Here's the problem with berating yourself thin: It only gets you so far.
Failure. No one likes to fail, yet everyone has. Of course, it's not something that we shout or boast about because it doesn't feel good -- in fact, it feels terrible. Seldom do we ever embrace the failures. It is the lessons learned in these failures that are the crown jewels.
Failing is part of life. You will be dumped, hurt, betrayed, rejected and disappointed. That doesn't matter. It is what you do next that counts. Will you go back to bed and stay there for a week? Or will you say "their loss," and try again?
It is critical to the careers and business success of high achievers to be able to connect to and understand how to use their sense of vulnerability. You are at risk until you engage this critical sense.