Living deliberately doesn't require a complete road map for the rest of your life or an extended experiment in off-the-grid living. Rather, living deliberately is about realizing that you always have choices and making active decisions instead of falling victim to habit.
We are not dropping out of touch or even out of sight. We are opting out of paying rent on a tiny city apartment in exchange for living in a larger country home we own. We are going to live where we always escaped to play.
The idea is to create and focus on what you can do something about -- YOURSELF -- rather than world problems and the big macs. Because ultimately, just like healthy eating habits, healthy mind habits begin from inside each of us and can lead to a new and transformed you!
In life, there will be times when dreams get shattered. When that one thing you blindly believed was going to work out doesn't. Most of us have been there, in a place outside our comfort zone. A place where we feel lost and lack the energy and self-belief needed to start again. But fear not.
Everyone has a picture of their life as they see it. Certain parts of your life are a bigger part of the picture. For me, the biggest parts were my roles as wife, mother, and teacher. I have a definite "before" and "after" in my life.
For me, embrace the chaos means: to accept the uncertainty of life and move forward anyway! Take action despite not knowing how things will turn out. To stop over-thinking, stop over-analyzing, stop trying to predict.
When I did manage to finally light the match, it was because of a simple realization: Eventually everything must come to an end. It wasn't easy to admit that something I put a lot of myself into was over, but at least I could stop spending time and energy trying to resuscitate it.
Many Sanford residents are frustrated, angry and deeply saddened over the verdict, and these emotions are connected to long-festering issues in the community. Such feelings cannot be swept aside. There must be room for people to express their views and for others to hear and feel them.
New York is a hard place to say no to. There's an undeniable energy percolating the air, a vibrant heartbeat pulsing the streets. Sure space may be limited and at a premium, but the backyard is the world's greatest playground.
It's important to honor and acknowledge your past, to tease lessons from the stories that make you, you. But at some point the past becomes a crutch, something to fall back on when you're uncomfortable in the present or fearful of the future.
Perhaps, like in a good chess game, you'll have the insight to see two or three moves ahead. But if not, don't sweat it. Just show up and take the right next step without delay. That will help keep the doubts and the internal wrestling to a minimum.