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Moving On

'I Had Ignored Every Red Flag That Unfurled In Front Of My Face'

Kristin Shaw | Posted 07.01.2014 | Divorce
Kristin Shaw

When we went our separate ways, four years later, I took off the ring and put it in a velvet-lined drawer in my dresser. It sat way in the back, where I couldn't lose it or look at it. It was an ill-kept secret in my drawer and in my head for months, gathering dust and memories.

The Day I Stopped Caring About My House

Janie Porter | Posted 06.27.2014 | Parents
Janie Porter

The house was me. The house showed everyone what a great homemaker I am. What a brilliant designer. What a stylish person. Maybe even someone they'd want to be like.

The Little (Good) Signs That Make You Realize It's Finally Over

Courtney Carter | Posted 06.23.2014 | Divorce
Courtney Carter

It's not always the big things in life that make a person realize their relationship and/or marriage is over. It's the little things listed below that you have to go through to separate your life as a we to a ME.

How to Forgive Yourself

Jenna Amatulli | Posted 06.02.2014 | GPS for the Soul
Jenna Amatulli

Forgiving yourself means more than just learning to live with what has happened. Sometimes, it means you have to rebuild, start from scratch, pull up the old foundations and lay new ones. This can be the hardest part.

How To Let Go, Forgive And Ultimately Feel Better

Posted 05.28.2014 | Healthy Living

By Chris Iliades, M.D. Reviewed by Niya Jones, M.D., MPH Being able to forgive a life-changing hurt, humiliation or injustice has emotional and ...

How I Got Through Divorce In 26.2 Miles

Heather Sweeney | Posted 07.20.2014 | Divorce
Heather Sweeney

I had been clicking the refresh button for an hour and six minutes on two different computers when, finally, my registration form was accepted. In a record two hours and 27 minutes, the 2013 Marine Corps Marathon reached its 30,000 registrant limit, and I was one of them.

Grief: What to Do When It Never Ends

Marie Marley | Posted 07.14.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Joyce sits alone in her bedroom every night. Most nights, she ends up bursting into tears over the loss of her husband of 30 years. The pain is searin...

The Blame Game

Debbie Martinez, M.A. | Posted 07.08.2014 | Divorce
Debbie Martinez, M.A.

The last time I looked, we only have one life, so choose how you are going to live it. Here are six fundamentals to not just moving on but moving up after a divorce.

How to Deal With Life's Little Lessons

Mary Pritchard | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

So rather than hiding under a rock, I have learned that processing each lesson the universe sends me is essential for my well-being. I have learned that if I don't want to have to learn that lesson again, I need to do three things: Eat it, digest it and eliminate it.

5 Reasons Why You Should Just Break Up With That Person Already

Akirah Robinson | Posted 06.26.2014 | Women
Akirah Robinson

If you don't feel ready to take the leap quite yet, you shouldn't judge yourself either. I sure don't. Only you know whether you should break up with that person already or not, but what's more important is that you know you can.

6 Things That Keep You From Moving On After Divorce

Lisa Arends | Posted 06.16.2014 | Divorce
Lisa Arends

Forgiveness isn't a pardon. It acknowledges the wrongs and then wraps them in compassion and acceptance. Forgiveness is an inside job, quietly accepting the apology you never received. Forgiveness is a difficult road. But you're worth it.

Recovering From Roman: Sam Geimer on Moving On

Janice Harper | Posted 06.09.2014 | Crime
Janice Harper

Samantha Geimer's story matters to the public not because the man who raped her was famous, but for the lessons it has to teach us about recovering from abuse.

How Can You Miss Me When You Never See Me?

Melanie Young | Posted 06.08.2014 | New York
Melanie Young

We are not dropping out of touch or even out of sight. We are opting out of paying rent on a tiny city apartment in exchange for living in a larger country home we own. We are going to live where we always escaped to play.

What My Children's Art Taught Me About Aging

Amy Ruhlin | Posted 06.04.2014 | Fifty
Amy Ruhlin

When they started high school, I knew it was time to take the artwork down. Otherwise, I just looked pathetic: an old mom clinging to old memories. But all I could muster was to move them upstairs, to my office, where I could secretly look at them.

Divorce: Life Goes On and It Can Be Awesome!

Betsy Chasse | Posted 05.25.2014 | Divorce
Betsy Chasse

Whoa, you mean I don't have to find a husband? I don't have to stay in the career I was in while I was married? I am completely free to reinvent myself any way I want? That's awesome.

All Women Have a Carmen Within

Amancay Tapia | Posted 05.20.2014 | Women
Amancay Tapia

Believe there is a "Carmen" lurking inside most of us and getting her out from time to time is particularly important in relationships, where we tend to see things with rose-colored glasses and ignore the red lights telling us to stop and change direction.

12 Steps To Getting Over Your Ex

Posted 03.17.2014 | Divorce

If we've learned anything from years and years of rom-com watching, it's that nothing eases the initial pain of a breakup quite like a good cry and a ...

How the Academy Awards Took My Numb Out

Nancy Lang | Posted 05.11.2014 | Women
Nancy Lang

When we feel nothing, are we aware that we've become numb? Do we realize that we have unplugged from the things and from people that give us vitality and a reason for being?

Getting Unmarried vs. Divorced: What's the Difference?

Sharon Zarozny | Posted 05.06.2014 | Divorce
Sharon Zarozny

Divorce conjures up an angry, ugly legal battle often with a lose/lose ending. One that keeps you stuck in unhappily-ever-after. Getting unmarried, on the other hand, is a split acknowledging a once loving relationship that no longer works.

Big Girls Don't Cry

Nikki Luongo | Posted 05.05.2014 | Impact
Nikki Luongo

We all have that ambition to be remembered for something great, and when you're learning-disabled, it's even harder because you're constantly fighting the system to pull yourself out of this label that because your disabled you aren't able to do anything.

The Empty Nest Is Just Another Beginning

Amy Ruhlin | Posted 04.27.2014 | Fifty
Amy Ruhlin

Aging brings the realization that there is always a beginning, a middle and an end. And that the only real stability is in the heart, down deep, where we store all the things we love.

The #1 Most Irritating Thing People Say To Divorcés

Posted 06.03.2014 | Divorce

I'm so sick of the insistence on 'moving on' -- the feel-good, you have to do it, non-stop stream of well-meaning advice that you cannot be happy after divorce until... you got it... you 'move on.' What exactly does that mean anyway?

How A Road Trip Set To A Beatles' Soundtrack Made Me A Better Ex

Oral Fixation | Posted 04.13.2014 | Divorce
Oral Fixation

My friends and family expected me to deal well with the disappointment, and then praised me for my positive outlook. But, so you're not confused, that's bullshit. I saved my sadness for when I was alone. I'd fall on the ground sobbing. Sobbing so loud and ridiculous, it sounded fake.

Why You're Every Bit as Awesome as Chocolate Chip Cookies!

Christina Pesoli | Posted 04.09.2014 | Divorce
Christina Pesoli

When it comes to post-divorce self-medicating, Haagen Dazs and chardonnay are divorced women's drugs of choice.

Letting Go of Stuff

Katie Lance | Posted 04.08.2014 | HuffPost Home
Katie Lance

I was reminded that at the end of the day our stuff -- is just that -- it's just stuff. It's just that so much of our stuff has so much meaning.