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Moving On

6 Things That Keep You From Moving On After Divorce

Lisa Arends | Posted 04.16.2014 | Divorce
Lisa Arends

Forgiveness isn't a pardon. It acknowledges the wrongs and then wraps them in compassion and acceptance. Forgiveness is an inside job, quietly accepting the apology you never received. Forgiveness is a difficult road. But you're worth it.

Recovering From Roman: Sam Geimer on Moving On

Janice Harper | Posted 04.09.2014 | Crime
Janice Harper

Samantha Geimer's story matters to the public not because the man who raped her was famous, but for the lessons it has to teach us about recovering from abuse.

How Can You Miss Me When You Never See Me?

Melanie Young | Posted 04.08.2014 | New York
Melanie Young

We are not dropping out of touch or even out of sight. We are opting out of paying rent on a tiny city apartment in exchange for living in a larger country home we own. We are going to live where we always escaped to play.

What My Children's Art Taught Me About Aging

Amy Ruhlin | Posted 04.04.2014 | Fifty
Amy Ruhlin

When they started high school, I knew it was time to take the artwork down. Otherwise, I just looked pathetic: an old mom clinging to old memories. But all I could muster was to move them upstairs, to my office, where I could secretly look at them.

Divorce: Life Goes On and It Can Be Awesome!

Betsy Chasse | Posted 03.25.2014 | Divorce
Betsy Chasse

Whoa, you mean I don't have to find a husband? I don't have to stay in the career I was in while I was married? I am completely free to reinvent myself any way I want? That's awesome.

All Women Have a Carmen Within

Amancay Tapia | Posted 03.20.2014 | Women
Amancay Tapia

Believe there is a "Carmen" lurking inside most of us and getting her out from time to time is particularly important in relationships, where we tend to see things with rose-colored glasses and ignore the red lights telling us to stop and change direction.

12 Steps To Getting Over Your Ex

Posted 03.17.2014 | Divorce

If we've learned anything from years and years of rom-com watching, it's that nothing eases the initial pain of a breakup quite like a good cry and a ...

How the Academy Awards Took My Numb Out

Nancy Lang | Posted 03.11.2014 | Women
Nancy Lang

When we feel nothing, are we aware that we've become numb? Do we realize that we have unplugged from the things and from people that give us vitality and a reason for being?

Getting Unmarried vs. Divorced: What's the Difference?

Sharon Zarozny | Posted 03.06.2014 | Divorce
Sharon Zarozny

Divorce conjures up an angry, ugly legal battle often with a lose/lose ending. One that keeps you stuck in unhappily-ever-after. Getting unmarried, on the other hand, is a split acknowledging a once loving relationship that no longer works.

Big Girls Don't Cry

Nikki Luongo | Posted 03.05.2014 | Impact
Nikki Luongo

We all have that ambition to be remembered for something great, and when you're learning-disabled, it's even harder because you're constantly fighting the system to pull yourself out of this label that because your disabled you aren't able to do anything.

The Empty Nest Is Just Another Beginning

Amy Ruhlin | Posted 02.25.2014 | Fifty
Amy Ruhlin

Aging brings the realization that there is always a beginning, a middle and an end. And that the only real stability is in the heart, down deep, where we store all the things we love.

The #1 Most Irritating Thing People Say To Divorcés

Posted 02.23.2014 | Divorce

By D. A. Wolf for If I hear it one more time -- "Why don't you just move on?" -- I'll scream. Long and loud. I'm so sick of ...

How A Road Trip Set To A Beatles' Soundtrack Made Me A Better Ex

Oral Fixation | Posted 04.13.2014 | Divorce
Oral Fixation

My friends and family expected me to deal well with the disappointment, and then praised me for my positive outlook. But, so you're not confused, that's bullshit. I saved my sadness for when I was alone. I'd fall on the ground sobbing. Sobbing so loud and ridiculous, it sounded fake.

Why You're Every Bit as Awesome as Chocolate Chip Cookies!

Christina Pesoli | Posted 04.09.2014 | Divorce
Christina Pesoli

When it comes to post-divorce self-medicating, Haagen Dazs and chardonnay are divorced women's drugs of choice.

Letting Go of Stuff

Katie Lance | Posted 04.08.2014 | HuffPost Home
Katie Lance

I was reminded that at the end of the day our stuff -- is just that -- it's just stuff. It's just that so much of our stuff has so much meaning.

8 Things My Kids Taught Me About Love

Posted 02.01.2014 | Divorce

Written by Michele Zipp on CafeMom’s blog, The Stir. There is a moment -- sometimes many, many moments -- after your marriage is over that you th...

Accepting Where You Are

Debbie Martinez, M.A. | Posted 04.01.2014 | Divorce
Debbie Martinez, M.A.

What you expect, you will receive. Become the master of your mind and not the victim of your thoughts.

How to Move On After Every Failure

Amancay Tapia | Posted 03.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Amancay Tapia

In life, there will be times when dreams get shattered. When that one thing you blindly believed was going to work out doesn't. Most of us have been there, in a place outside our comfort zone. A place where we feel lost and lack the energy and self-belief needed to start again. But fear not.

Why You Need to Forgive Your Ex

Deborah Moskovitch | Posted 02.16.2014 | Divorce
Deborah Moskovitch

In an effort to better understand the how's and why's of forgiveness, I spoke with Dr. Mark S. Rye, a clinical psychologist and Associate Professor of Psychology at Skidmore College. He has been researching and writing about forgiveness since 1996.

10 Great Ways To Meet Someone New During The Holidays

Lois Tarter | Posted 02.12.2014 | Fifty
Lois Tarter

A really good thing to know about being single during the holidays is that you're not the only one. There are other people who are not in a relationship during this holiday season and are looking to get to know someone new over eggnog.

15 Things Not To Do After A Breakup

Lois Tarter | Posted 02.06.2014 | Women
Lois Tarter

After a breakup, it's so easy to feel depressed and alone. It's important to take matters into your own hands and pull yourself back together as quickly as possible. Realize that while it was traumatic, you can go forward and move into the new life that you want.

The 5 Positive Things That Come Out Of A First Marriage

Lois Tarter | Posted 02.05.2014 | Fifty
Lois Tarter

Almost everybody I've come across who's over 50 and was going through their first divorce said adamantly, 'I will never get married again.' A few years later, I've been to the weddings of many of those people. After you've been through a divorce, it takes a lot of soul searching to make any post-divorce relationship a permanent one.

The Breakup Email Template

Vana Dabney | Posted 01.23.2014 | Comedy
Vana Dabney

"We actually broke up." This is the inevitable response you will have to give for weeks, months, possibly even years after you and your significant other part ways.

The Enlightenment That Comes From a Burning Bridge

Debbie Woodbury | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Debbie Woodbury

When I did manage to finally light the match, it was because of a simple realization: Eventually everything must come to an end. It wasn't easy to admit that something I put a lot of myself into was over, but at least I could stop spending time and energy trying to resuscitate it.

Moving on and Moving Up

Debbie Martinez, M.A. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Debbie Martinez, M.A.

Moving on does not equate with quality of life. It simply means you are moving past the place you are currently in. People can move on but not always in a constructive way. Just getting on with your life is not enough if you want to really live your life and be happy in it.