We know it is hard to change behavior. But trust us, you can do it. We can not remember the last time we had a fight or argument with someone. But we constantly learn new things and we end up knowing the nicest people all over the place, also if we start out on a rough path!
There is a beauty about objective feedback. Sometimes it hurts, but it's objective, and it means something. If you can take negative feedback, even when you want to emotionally retaliate, it will do eons for what you can achieve.
According to recent studies, you shouldn't worry so much when it comes to pointing out mistakes to someone who is experienced. Negative feedback won't crush their confidence, but it just might give them the information they need to take their performance to the next level.
My passion and my career revolve around designing group situations which inspire people to create greatness with minimal stress. "American Idol," for better or worse, is role modeling exactly the opposite.