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Negotiations

Eyes on the Real Prize

Gloria Duffy | Posted 05.25.2011 | World
Gloria Duffy

The US is entering a season of key international negotiations, during which two arms control treaties that have been languishing for years will hopefully be completed.

CBO Health Care Estimates: Washington Post Profiles Agency That Estimates Health Care Bills' Costs

Washington Post | Lori Montgomery | Posted 05.25.2011 | Home

Phil Ellis may be the most powerful guy you've never heard of in the health-care debate. A senior analyst with the Congressional Budget Office, Ellis ...

IAEA Report: Iran Has Data To Make Nuclear Bomb

New York Times | William J. Broad And David E. Sanger | Posted 05.25.2011 | World

Senior staff members of the United Nations nuclear agency have concluded in a confidential analysis that Iran has acquired "sufficient information to ...

How to Be Your Own Mediator: Disconnect the Reaction from the Person

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

When you can distance yourself from your response, you separate the reaction from yourself.

How to be Your Own Mediator: Raise the Issue Swept Under the Rug

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

Unlike a comedian who has to setup a punch line carefully and wait for the right beat, you can come back to an issue that happened hours, weeks and even years ago to work things out.

How To Be Your Own Mediator: Tell the Third Story

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

In conflict, two people can view identity as a zero sum game. The more right you are; the more wrong I am. You can sense this mentality creeping into stories we tell ourselves and other people.

How to be Your Own Mediator: Tell the Story Twice

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

Catch the ways you leave out the other person's perspective. Alter your actions by altering the stories you tell yourself and others.

How to Be Your Own Mediator: Empathize and Assert at the Same Time

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

Feeling forced to choose to be assertive or empathetic is natural. Yet you may actually feel mixed and even desire to both assert and empathize.

How to be Your Own Mediator: It's Me Not You

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

Identify your contribution to the conflict. By accepting your part and then taking responsibility, you give yourself the best chance possible for getting out of conflict.

Tear Down the Walls: How to Move to Their Side

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

If you truly want to bridge the gap between you and the person across from you, sitting alongside is still the place to start.

Tear Down the Walls: Imagine a Video Camera is Only Capturing You

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

See yourself doing well. Separate that from what the other person has done or will do. Picture success as it relates to you, your body language, volume, tone and words.

Create a Comfort Zone for the Other Person

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

If the the person your butting heads with is feeling safe, they are less likely to lose it.

Iran Uprising Changes Nuclear Calculus

Joe Cirincione | Posted 05.25.2011 | World
Joe Cirincione

Mousavi was always more open to dialogue with the West. If president, his discourse could now include the nuclear program with much less fear of attack.

North Korea Will Not Be Ignored

Joe Cirincione | Posted 05.25.2011 | World
Joe Cirincione

Like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction, North Korea is a little unbalanced but relentless. The first thing to know about their apparently successful nuclear test is this: don't panic.

After the Nuke Test, the US and North Korea Should Keep Talking

Michael Roston | Posted 06.02.2011 | World
Michael Roston

History is not on North Korea's side, and ensnaring the hermit state in negotiations establishes some possibility of reining in its behaviors.

Tear Down the Walls By Becoming More Comfortable First

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

When you have discomfort, treat it as a learning opportunity. The less you go into denial and accept discomfort as expected, the easier it will be to relax.

Tear Down the Walls: How to Imagine Their Internal Conflict Story

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

Remember that another person has a positive intention.

Afghanistan: The Four Questions

Robert Naiman | Posted 05.25.2011 | World
Robert Naiman

It matters little in the big scheme of things how many new troops President Obama announces. If there is no real change in policy, new troops won't accomplish anything.

Tear Down The Walls -- How to Use Demands as Clues

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

When you are surprised by your own flash of anger, you may not be fully conscious of your own desires. You may be missing the underlying needs that your own anger is revealing to you.

Tear Down the Walls: How to Separate the Position From the Person

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

A part of who we are is what we believe. This explains why we tend to assess other people's likeability and credibility based on their positions.

Tear Down the Walls: How to See Everyday Conflicts as Cross-Cultural

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

If you are already scratching your head about the other person before you've even engaged with them, then you are missing something.

Tear Down the Walls: How to Bring Curiosity into the Mix

Grande Lum | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Grande Lum

As a mediator, I remember the power of asking the parties questions they would not ask each other. Anything a mediator can do, individuals can do on their own. Observe with fresh eyes.

Sarah Palin Makes SNL Debut

Shelly Palmer | Posted 05.25.2011 | Media
Shelly Palmer

If you are having trouble viewing our video player, check out MediaBytes on YouTube. After weeks of speculation, Sarah Palin appeared on Saturday Ni...

Jed Lewison

Barack Obama On The Strength Of Negotiating

HuffingtonPost.com | Jed Lewison | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics

One of the clearest policy -- and personality -- contrasts in the debate came when Barack Obama and John McCain discussed the issue of negotiating wit...