You're constantly looking at top wedding blogs, pinning has become your second job, and your wedding coordinator is on speed dial (or, if you don't have one, then you feel like you're ready to become one). But you can never fully anticipate the wedding day until (gulp) it's finally here.
Sometimes, both sets of families become very emotionally attached to 'getting you' for your first married Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or Thanksgiving. If distance is a factor, someone's family has to 'win.'
What would you tell two starry-eyed lovers about to embark on the rosy path of marriage?
That's the question my brother and his fiancée asked me to answer in a "short" speech on their wedding day. I told them there is no such thing.
What you didn't realize is that along with that gorgeous man and ring comes his mother...your future mother-in-law. Sounds cool, right? WRONG! Your future mother-in-law is not the one who keeps her distance and asks, "How high?" when you say, "Jump". She's the one that movies are made of.
From your parents or your in-laws, the insinuations about having babies are not something that you really want to deal with as a newlywed, but you could try to understand the reasons that parents feel so inclined to speak up on the subject.
You may be one of those precocious and cautious couples that seek such training from a therapist or from a workshop right before or soon after your marriage. Or you may be the starry -eyed, idealist, lazy, avoidant procrastinator who waits until the s--t hits the fan before rushing to seek help.