It seems to me that if we want our relationships and marriages to be accepted by our straight counterparts, then maybe it's time to keep a lid on what exactly it is that we do behind closed doors. Maybe it's just no one's business.
There's nothing like my first-date dinner companion telling me he hopes I can someday play with him and his partner together. I don't know what happened to first-date etiquette, but this information might have been useful before wooing me into thinking you're a man I could settle for.
Dan Savage coined the term "monogamish" to describe his relationship and others that do not exactly conform to the rigid construct of monogamy. As someone who believes that rigidity is at the heart of most, if not all, psychopathology, I was intrigued. It spoke to me.
Having lived all over the country in several metropolitan cities, I have experienced and learned a lot about queer culture and diversity within our community, but nothing has shocked me more than what I learned in San Francisco. Gay men here mostly play by different rules.
While discussing what "poly" is with a commenter on my last blog, I realized that there really isn't a reason to place a definition on it. However, there is a need for open-mindedness about other people's relationship dynamics.
If LGBTQ activists continue to say that relationships are really about committing to the people we love regardless of gender, race, creed, etc., then maybe society should allow us to commit to the people (plural) we love.