Act from love, not from a sense of debt. If you think of caring for an aging loved one as repayment for all he or she's done for you, you'll always end up in the red. Instead, think of caregiving as one person helping another out of love.
When Grandma Mollie finally decided to get home-care, she found a caregiver in her community to assist her with certain tasks. In a few weeks, she fired the caregiver, after accusing her of misplacing and then stealing her eyeglasses. She found someone new.