I recently had the opportunity to speak with Captain Tom Bunn, one of the world's foremost experts on fear of flying. What's unique about Captain Bunn is he isn't just an airline captain, but also a licensed psychotherapist and former Air Force jet fighter.
One thing I've noticed is that fear is an all-too-common reason why my clients feel stuck in their lives and businesses -- fear of failure, success, judgement, making mistakes, putting themselves out there and becoming the person they know they're meant to be.
Start showing up to every moment of every single day fully present and engaged in what you're doing or who you're with. Stop thinking about how things "have to be" because of something happening later. Be here now for this moment and have the most amazing experience you can.
Fear often shows up when we face the unknown. The heightened energy of fear can serve to put you on alert, to find the information or resources you might need for the future, to stimulate your creativity and imagination to fulfill your goals and objectives.
A psychologist, author, mindfulness teacher and snowboarder, Dr. Kozak has been a great influence on my work, and I was honored to get a chance to interview him recently about fear, psychology and mindfulness.
How long have you been avoiding what scares you? Has hiding from the fear ever made it go away? Can you see how avoiding what scares you actually works against you by feeding the fear? The time to weaken your fear and strengthen your fearlessness is now.
Whether or not there is such a thing as fate or soul mates, I'm not sure I'll ever know. But at the end of the day, I haven't given up hope. Maybe that makes me fearless, maybe it makes me a fool. But it's what gets me out of bed each morning.
You have to ask yourself: When the bomb goes off, are you going to run toward it, or away? I hope that I would have the courage to run toward the bomb. I also hope to never be in the situation where I have to find out.
Fear is momentary; regrets are forever. The reality is that fears that paralyze us today will be long forgotten tomorrow, and we'll be left with the after-effects of opting for safety -- life unexperienced, progress unmade, a truckful of regret.
In 2012, resolve to forge ahead a path of fearlessness. Realize that by using your own inner resources, you will not only have the strength to cope with the worst, but the ingenuity to create the best, in your future.