I turn to face the truth -- that my baby girl is gone and it hurts like hell rolled over on me. I open my empty arms, throwing them around the pain, embracing the suffering, and scream out, "I don't want to be numb -- I want to FEEL EVERYTHING."
When I coach people on the obstacles that may be slowing them down or even sabotaging their dreams, often it comes down to behaviors that can be easily corrected. But it begins with honestly assessing and recognizing what it is.
When you are facing a crisis, wait for the answer to come and some unexpected gate to open. Allow yourself such psychological flexibility of holding two seemingly opposite experiences at the same time, honoring the negative feelings but to be actively open to receive answers at the same time.