Cancer is not a competition. Oh, well, it is if you ask Official Pancreatic Action -- their latest ad campaign features a picture of a woman, with a bald head (presumably from chemo), and next to her is a quote, "I wish I had breast cancer."
BRCA is a difficult gift. Having a hysterectomy and double mastectomy was no picnic, but I've learned so much, gained new insights and made so many friends I never would have met otherwise. It's led me down paths I never expected, but in spite of it all, I love my life and I'm glad I was born.
I have a lot to be thankful for this November. I am a living example that there is hope in beating the odds against pancreatic cancer. I am a competitor. And in the race against pancreatic cancer, I know together, we can win.
This day is also about remembering the heroes who are still here, who touched our lives and held our family up as we struggled to process our enormous loss and rebuild our lives in the years that followed.
With the knowledge we now have in hand, the collaborations underway through this consortium and other initiatives, and the outstanding scientific capabilities of these world-class institutions, there is reason for great optimism in the face of pancreatic cancer's grim reality.
While individual health care decisions in the wake of a cancer diagnosis belong to the patient, there are some questions that my mother asked -- or didn't know to ask until things went awry -- that may be helpful for others to keep in mind when chemotherapy is presented as an option.
I hope that this great American hero -- the woman who inspired a generation of girls to reach for the stars in math and science -- will also inspire a generation of LGBT youth to reach for the stars in their lives and relationships.